How to deal with being bi-confused because its driving me crazy?

Question

I mean, I just dunno how to deal with it.

I wanna see what it is like, and I really wanna love someone!

Actually, I'm bi curious, and I DO NOT wanna see what its like. sometimes i get turned off by it, sometimes not. SEE? IM SO CONFUSED OMG HELP

but i reeally do wanna care for someone really bad

Answer 1

I don't see any confusion at all, or really any curiousity.

Just alot of needless guilt.

"Get over it and you just might find someone to love" as the Queen song goes. YOU DESERVE IT.

Answer 2

A strict definition of a bisexual would be someone who has romantic and/or sexual relations with other people of more than one sex (though not necessarily at the same time)

However, since not everyone has necessarily had the opportunity to act on their sexual/romantic attractions, some people prefer a looser definition; for instance, that a bisexual is a person who - in their own estimation - feels potentially able to have such attraction. This could be anyone who has erotic, affectionate, or romantic feelings for, fantasies of, and/or experiences with both men and women.


Below is a link to a online group that has support for people who think they may or could be bi-curious or bi-sexual.

Someone who is bi-curious has a sexual orientation, behavior, or self-identification, which is close to but not quite entirely heterosexual or homosexual. There are several different conventional meanings of this term, some of which are mutually exclusive.

omeone who has a primarily opposite-gender orientation, but who has a long-term but slight attraction to members of the same gender, or a strong attraction to a small number of people of the same gender. "Bi-curious" here becomes an "alternative" sexual orientation somewhere between heterosexual and bisexual. Some people insist on a three-category system, where anyone with any firmly established bisexual attraction simply has a bisexual orientation (and the person who "thinks" they are bi-curious is in self-denial, is misinformed, is abusing the language, or even has "internalized homophobia"). Others prefer the term "heteroflexible" to describe a very slight homosexual attraction (or "homoflexible" at the other end of the spectrum). Some people feel the difference between "bi-curious" and "bisexual" should be made on the basis of behavior - for example, whether a heteroflexible has actually had (or perhaps is willing to actually have) same gender-sex, or whether they have had a lot of same-gender sex, or if one has had or is willing to be in an actual relationship with the same gender and not just kiss or have sex with the same gender.

Answer 3

I felt the exact same way except I am a girl. I think a major problem you have is accepting that it is ok to be bi. Have you ever looked at a guy and said, "god i want that" with an open mouth and drooling? If so then you are bi and thats perfectly fine. You might also be turned off by man-whores, and prefer gentler men (or vice-versa) I went out with a bisexual and he was an amazing person (he moved) trust me there are girls and guys who will love to be with you. If it bothers you to the point where you can't handle it then try self-hypnosis. it is difficult to be bi sometimes, especially when you find it immoral.

Answer 4

There is only way way to cure your curiousity. You should meet someone that you can trust enough to find out if it is something you are indeed interested in. Also if you meet this person and get to know them, let them know your intentions. If you are only curious make sure they know that. It hurts having feelings for someone that would not be able to return them because they were "experimenting."

Answer 5

Find a good woman, man.

Answer 6

just go with the flow, things will happen in time