im a guy and theres this girl that im very good friends with but we're just friends. whenever we go out to eat, is it right for the guy to always pay? i think if youre friends, thats unfair all of the time because a guy can work hard for his money and he shouldnt have to pay all of the time just because he has the title of male. personally, whenever we go out, regardless of whoever came up with the idea, it seems we switch paying, like 1 time i'll pay for us and another time she'll pay and ill pay the next time and so on. and she seems fine with that. so what do you people think of that? should a guy always have to pay as friends?
2007-01-08 13:50:39 · 12 answers · asked by cfab 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Absolutely not. It is unfair and disrespectful for a guy to always pay or to be expected to always pay. When I was dating, I didn't expect my dates to always pay and, now that I'm married, I like to pay my half of the bills. The days when men worked and women stayed at home led to men always paying. Those days are over.
2007-01-08 13:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by farmgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a left over from the days of chivalry. Men were expected to pay because women did not have jobs that paid much money. Also, it's a sign to the woman that they ahve a verile mate who can provide for them. basically, if you don't mind it, don't complain, if you like paying for agirls attention. But if you feel like you're just getting played for a free meal and a lay, then don't do it. Propose dutch. Or that she takes you out ona date every once in a while. fair play in this day and age.
2016-05-22 21:36:57 · answer #2 · answered by Karin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definetly don't think the guy should be expected to pay. You either do the I pay this one you get the next one thing or you just split the bills. Obviously it doesn't have to be perfectly 50/50, and if the guy makes a lot more money than the girl than maybe he should pay more often just to be considerate, but it definetly shouldn't be expected.
2007-01-08 13:58:43 · answer #3 · answered by Obelix 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ok if the 2 of you switch like that. The Guy paying ALL the time between friends isn't.
2007-01-08 13:56:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think even when it's more than just friends the guy shouldn't always be stuck paying.
Dates are expensive and I can't imagine what it's like for a guy to have to always pay.
2007-01-08 13:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all, she can pay her way, unless you want to pay, it doesnt really matter who pays even in a relationship, but i think on first dates the guy should pay, just so the girl feels special, but no you guys are all good.
2007-01-08 13:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by Bex 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're just friends, everyone pays his/her own bill. If you're dating, then I would expect the man to pay for the lady. If you're asking someone out, depending on your past experience, you may have to pay for it.
Take note guys - if you're dating Asian women, they expect you to pay for everything. If you're asking her to marry you, you'll pay for the wedding not to mention the dowry. Smile.
2007-01-08 14:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you young guys do this friend with the opposite sex thing, which is just completely weird, so you have to live with the confusion that comes along. Best of luck. I guess.
2007-01-08 14:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, the guy shouldn't have to always pay. i think this goes even when you're dating someone. it's just keeping things equal.
2007-01-08 13:56:43 · answer #9 · answered by Plumeria 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
friends either pay for what they bought or split down the middle.
2007-01-08 13:54:32 · answer #10 · answered by green and blue knight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋