Girls are SUPPOSED to be pretty?

Question

There is a HUGE f*cking double standard in this world!

Men can look like complete garbage and people will still respect them and judge them by their personality.

Women can look average and no one wants to hear what she has to say unless she transforms into a supermodel.

Tell me half these models you see on tv have the slightest bit of intelligence? Vida is a dumb ***, and so is Giselle.

Do you remember when Ruben Stutter won American Idol? No bad talk. But everyone thinks Kimberley Locke is fat. Simon is always talks **** about how someone should loose weight but have you ever seen him address a man? Or any part of a guy's physical appearance.

I have two best friends, the first is a size 6/8 and the other a size 0. They are both attractive but when we are all out the guys don't look at either of us, just the size zero.

I'm not paranoid I just feel left in the dark. My whole life I was taught to be kind to others, generosity, smile and maintain a moral. NONE OF THAT MATTERS!

Answer 1

LOL... who are you hanging around? From what you've writen, no wonder that's all you see and hear... it takes one to know one.

If you raise your standards and associate with a nicer and more mature group, you will find that things are quite different.

The great thing about being a girl -- we're allowed to look pretty if we want! (why is it that those who scream the most about unfair rights and unequal treatment try to take away the rights from women for freedom of expression?)

Answer 2

It dates back to the 'ole days when women were perceived as good for nothing except giving birth to babies and taking care of the house.

Back then, when men generally didn't give a damn about a woman's personality simply because they didn't want to believe they had one, they would look at their appearance to choose the future mother of their child. It might not be true, but usually, a pretty person would tend to be pretty healthy, with good genes (a reason why we might imagine inter-family bred people to look like utter freaks).

Obviously, we women learned that we didn't have a choice when choosing our new husbands, so we had to look on the bright side (an ugly man doesn't equate neccesarily to a cruel man), and the men, well, they just try not to insult each other.

Feminism has made long strides, but still, some things never change...

Answer 3

People are attracted to different things. Men and women have a more stark difference.


Men look to attractiveness in women, because it's an indicator of good genes and being healthy.

Women tend to be attracted to things a little more complex than men. Capability to provide for a child (money, good job, good car, all of these trigger that), as well as a physique (strong, powerful appearance is often another key women see as a potentially good provider [say from prehistoric times, I'm assuming]).

These evolved into the mating criteria of humans over millenia. They aren't the only criteria men or women use, just some of the first (you can rarely see intelligence at a distance, for instance). Many men (me for sure) also find kindness, compassion, and honesty extremely critical characteristics in a potential partner.

While it may not seem fair to you, men run into the same issues, just not limited to looks.

Though more men may be attracted to model type bodies and faces, they are just a higher percent. I, personally, don't find models that attractive.

Answer 4

There are no ugly women in the world, but lazy women. Different people have different "taste" for example A prefer tea, B prefer coffee, C prefer fruits juice, D prefer plain water, E prefer chocolate drink....etc. Maybe the guys like size 0. Anyway, this doesn't mean that you two not attractive!

Answer 5

It does matter. Being a good person is Way more important than being a pretty one. Good for you for maintaining a moral compass.

Men are under pressure to work out, dress nice and avoid becoming bald. Overwight men are often the butt of jokes and often do not turn the heads of 'pretty' women, So It is not all one sided, though I agree that women seem to have pressure on them to be pretty.

Answer 6

Sorry, but how can all men pass off a size 6-8 over a size 0? Oh, unless you live in LA of course.......I'm in the UK and trust me, men here prefer curves. You should visit!

IMO size 6-8 is the perfect size for a woman. HTH : )

Answer 7

It DOES matter. Being kind to others, being generous, and being friendly are all excellent characteristics. You have to keep in mind that people who only care about looks are shallow and probably do not have any good qualities themselves. Ask yourself if you want to be with this kind of person or if you want to be with a person who loves you for YOU. Looks fade, but good character traits last a lifetime.

Answer 8

So enable's say your in a bar and a guy sees a fine looking female, he will bypass over to her for her seems, yet stay for the character. no count quantity how rather a woman is, if her character sucks, no guy will want her for a courting. He ought to in certainty use her and characteristic intercourse, yet won't see her as an prolonged term marrige textile female.

Answer 9

that's why i HATE the movie "sideways."
here are two, egomaniacal, emotionally stunted men and two smart, independant, and self-actualized women and they fall for the guys. and it goes on to win award after award.

this is why feminism is still necessary. i have met too many women who aren't feminists but see problems with gender inequality. just by identifying as a feminist (regardless of the stigma attached to it), men will, hopefully, eventually see that they are doing something wrong. and the men who don't have a problem with feminism or feminists will always make better boyfriends.
everyone should read the book egalia's daughters. it looks at the origins of the women's movement in a different way.

Answer 10

Maybe women who are comfortable with the sensuality associated with a feminine body don't hold hostility against men, in comparison to women who hold prejudice against men for appreciating our natural design. From a guy's perspective -- which is going to be more approachable?