Ok i have been dating my girlfriend for 5 years and 11 months. Every so often i get bored and i feel like i don't like her and i only desire to hang out with her once or twice a week. I still love her but i just feel like i want to chill with my friends for a while then i get over it and i chill with my girlfriend a lot more. Now She is in that phase for the first time in our relationship. Im trying to give her space but shes not understanding it's just a phase and everyone goes through it.
My question is; does everyone here in long term relationships go in and out of the phases a couple times a year or is it a big problem. I can't imagine being with out her i love her very much im hoping it's just a phase.
2007-01-08 13:42:08 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to ask her.
Sit down and talk to her about it.
Good Luck
2007-01-08 13:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess would be that your age is young and even though you have been going together all these years, you still are discovering things about relationships. Everybody needs their time and space--even married couple are prone to this---it is normal and healthy to have interests away or apart from one another---makes coming home a real treat. No one starts out with the intention of overshadowing another person--but it does happen and is a source of problems which is opposite of yours. Keep your outside interests on the up and up---choose your friends wisely and keep the activities on the safe side---don't ever get involved in anything that could cause a partner to feel betrayed or as a second class mate. Remember what you have at home is always the most important---you should always make your mate feel like number one when you walk through that door.That way both of you feel like you can't wait to be with each other'''keeps the passion going too. Honor any questions that your mate might have---it would be an indicator of whether you are gone to much---they have a right to expect you to be honest about where you go or who you hang with. I'm sure you would want to know if you had a question. Be nice and pleasant when you answer--arguing is time wasted. And be big about admitting that you probably have been away a little too much. A real man and partner would do that.Don't forget--flowers once in a while show her you can't live without her and ---just walk in and say,,thanks honey,I love you. Good luck and have a really great life.
2007-01-08 21:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I am kind of glad you asked this, because I have notice the same thing In my relationship. I have been dating my boyfriends for two and a half years, and once In a while I feel like Its mu turn to be really "into" the relationship, and then later on it goes onto him. I guess I see it in the opposite way that you do, but I understand. I think it is normal, because you can absolutely love someone but not want to be with them 24/7. Im sure its just a phase that will come and go. (:
2007-01-08 21:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I go through the same thing every now and then. When I'm around my b/f a lot, he'll just get on my nerves a lot and I don't really want to see him as often. Then I go to school (3 hours away from him) and I'll miss him like crazy and it's back to normal. I'm not aware of him feeling the same way, but he probably has and just hasn't brought it up. Oh, and I've been with him for nearly 5 years, so I guess it could just be a thing that happens when you're with a person for so long.
2007-01-08 21:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just a phase for her like what you go thru. every couple needs a break just to hang out with their friends. i have been married for 4 1/2 yrs. and i so want a break but for married couples it doesn't always happen that way. so give her some space and she will be ok in time.. good luck !!!!!!!!!
2007-01-08 21:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by babyboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone goes through it, if u spend a long time w/ someone, u sometimes just wanna break from them and hang out with ur old friends,its no problem. tell ur its not a big deal, she needs some space and be around different people
2007-01-08 22:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by Alexander the Great 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u said u've been with her more than 5 yr n r loving her still.so what r u waiting 4? go to tie the knot with her asap! actually 6 yr is considered a bit too long of waiting(wasting time),2-3 yr of romance is already enough.so the best way 4 u now is marriage,then u w'd change everything in life cos 2 is better than 1.
best wishes.
2007-01-08 21:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like a phase to me it sounds like it's just a comfort thing to hang on to each other and maybe she is letting go because she got sick of you wanting to chill all the time.
2007-01-08 21:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by Mandy L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is normal. Everybody goes in that phase in a long term relationship.
Good luck!
2007-01-08 21:55:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you read the book "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" ? I think you both should get the book and read it.
It helps a lot. I mean, in understanding the opposite sex and also to learn more about our own gender's characteristics.
All the best!
It is normal.
2007-01-08 21:50:04 · answer #10 · answered by sassy girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a normal part of relationships. Basically along the lines of Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Im surprised it took her 5 years to get sick of you!! haa j/k. She will be fine.
2007-01-08 21:48:49 · answer #11 · answered by Drea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋