to make things brief, my bf & i broke up about 6 months ago, but we both couldnt let go- we loved each other too much. we are finally starting to talk again and considering getting back together
but both of us have really changed over these months, and although there is conversation when were together, there are also a lot of awkward pauses. i dont think this is an indication that we wouldnt work, i just think were not yet used to each other like we used to be
I cant fill the pauses with telling him what ive been up to these 6 months and neither can he, bc but we both tried dating other people (etc), and thats hardly a good topic starter for a reconciling couple
so how do i avoid the awkward pauses? every pause makes me less hopeful for our relationship..
and what can i talk to him about? hes artsy, reads the ny times, is really into politics, likes partying, etc.. if those details help at all...
thanks so much.
2007-01-08 13:40:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this sounds very "everybody loves raymond" but.. i think it'll work.. try taking a class.. or something weekly or something together.. you can spend time learning something new together.. as for the awkward pauses ^^ will help you create less of those.. and you just need to relax more, as hard as it sounds.. its only awkward if you make it awkward.. when the silences stop.. or.. stop becoming awkward.. you'll know that your comfortable with eachother.. a couple jokes.. or even a smile can stop awkwardness.. or just asking about his interests, talking about yours, or asking a question doesn't hurt.. i used to have the same problem.. and as i got to know my gf more and more.. i got comfortable with the pauses.. best of luck=)
p.s. you can always talk to him about it.. it shows that you care about your relationship, and that your making an attempt to make things work... and you'll hear whats on his mind..
2007-01-08 14:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by l2onaldinho1010 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, people change just like the weather. Don't feel awkward, relax. This may be that it wasn't as true of a love as you thought. Talk about things he likes as well as the things you like. If the chemistry isn't there you will know. If it isn't, move on. Life is too short to hang by your nails on a cliff.
2007-01-08 21:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by pro1fit1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I'm wrong ,but i had the same thing happen to me.I still talk to my ex,just to be polite and when there are pauses,I'm not thinking of things to say but thinking that ,i wish she would leave.But she doesn't and I'm the one hew casually leaves,just so not to make her upset by telling her what I'm really thinking.
2007-01-08 22:13:18 · answer #3 · answered by tdwatch 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hm.. uncomfortable pauses after a conversation.. try an ice breaker.. comment on the food you eating..try commenting something funny on what you have observed around the restaurant..the waiter.. a good laugh is a nice ice breaker..
2007-01-08 21:46:33 · answer #4 · answered by anette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have anything to talk about because you haven't done anything together for six months. So just go do something and you'll find things to talk about.
2007-01-08 21:45:57 · answer #5 · answered by jordanred17_89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just make out with him when there is nothing to say.
2007-01-08 21:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by Obelix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋