my daughter just got her license she ask to drive my car all the time its a lincoln Ls I dont feel good about it but its hard for me to say no she will probally get her own car this summer should i feel guilty when i say no
2007-01-08 13:38:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Just tell her you love her and do not want to put her through the Grief of having to come home and tell you she wrecked your car, so, you saying No, because you care about her emotional well being.
2007-01-08 13:46:34 · answer #1 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't feel guilty I would worry about a car with a 16 year old behind the wheel to. And besides she is only 16 I am sure she doesn't "need" the car yet anyways so don't feel guilty just be hesitant until she gets her own car.
2007-01-08 21:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by jordanred17_89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being the mother of 6.2 boys and 4 girls i can relate.but my answer is.dont feel guilty because you will get over this guilt easier than after the phone call that something bbad has happened ot the first time the police call and say come get the car but you child spends the night .all kids are differant.it is a case by case situation.i had 2 that i would always say yes and i had 3 i would always even today with them in there 20's say no
2007-01-08 22:03:19 · answer #3 · answered by wolflafaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope....this entitlement mentality is destroying our teens...don't be afraid to have boundaries (which includes the word no)...you better get some put in place before it gets out of control....you are going to have a much tougher time to pull in the reigns once you have let her run the show for too long....get a spine....say no, this is my car, I will let you occasionally have the privilege of using my car....but we are not going to make it an everyday event. If she throws a fit...just say...okay....there is a quick fix to this....we will just say there will be no car privileges....here's your choice....occasional privileges....no privileges....occasional privileges....no privileges...take your pick. Take the reigns back mama....Why you would feel guilty is beyond me....oh yeah....you don't want to be disliked...you want to be her friend....sorry....your job is to be the parent....now get with it. No!
2007-01-08 21:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. You;d feel worse if she totalled it or due to her inexperience hurt herself or another. Instead, tell you you want her to gain more experience and go driving with her. Once you are confident in her ability you will feel better about makin the decision to let her drive alone.
2007-01-08 21:42:47 · answer #5 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt feel guilty.
I had to save and buy my first car. I wasn't allowed to drive my parents car EVER! (it wasnt even a nice one haha)
P.S. Your her mother, she should respect your descisions!!
2007-01-10 21:45:12 · answer #6 · answered by krayzie_boo11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel guilty.. moms have this maternal instinct, if you don't feel she should drive your car you have the right to say no, it's for her safety and your piece of mind.
2007-01-08 21:47:46 · answer #7 · answered by ethannadinemariel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sometimes it is natural to say no and feel guilty
2007-01-08 21:42:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋