In this time of contracts. lawyers, licenses, and high divorce rates, what is your opinion on changing the rules of marriage? That is, one enters into a contract for specific terms for a specific period of time (with renewal option). If at the end of that term one does not wish to renew, the contract is terminated. If contract terms are broken, penalties are already set in place. I realize there would be much more to this especially when family law is in the picture, but might this not save court time, and maybe simplify things (not really once lawyers are involved). The idea is a different system.
2007-01-08 13:26:36 · 11 answers · asked by shaker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lets put love aside in this, as i would only do this with someone i loved (although one might say that one wouldn't do this to someone one loved). Also lets not play the God card and his/her part in an everlasting union.
2007-01-08 14:25:23 · update #1
I have often said the same thing myself! Absolutely! Why should people be penalized so harshly when the " till death do us part" thing doesnt pan out? I think it is largely unrealistic. I think a decade time frame is more realistic. I think it would be hard to get any religious backing for this idea however.
2007-01-08 13:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by shannon d 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
No, it wouldn't save anything. You'd still have people suing each other for breach of contract...which is essentially all a divorce is. Just because a penalty is set in a contract doesn't mean the offending party would abide by the contract. So, you'd end up in court anyway.
Also, I'm not entering into a "contract" when I get married. I'm entering into a union. The whole purpose of it is not for a term defined duration, but for life.
There would be absolutely no benefit of the contract. One of the things a contract must supply is a benefit to all parties involved. Explain to me what the benefit is to the signors? They have nothing more than if they lived together without a contract.
2007-01-08 13:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by Kaia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is not supposed to be a business contract. It's supposed to be a loving union of two people for their mutual emotional loving support. You can't contract that! All your idea would do, (and it's an idea that's been around for some time by the way), is create a new class, and type of prostitute. Male, and Female.
2007-01-08 13:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know dude, that is an interesting idea and one that does have some merit in a way, but you are still making a mistake. Yours is a common mistake, one that is made in so many things anymore. The rules of marriage, as are the morals of life, are determined by God not humans.
Now, God allows us to do as we like and so forth, but he will not honor the rules and terms we make. He only honors the ones he made along with his terms he set.
Your idea only reflects another one of those things where we think we get to play by our own rules and set our own terms. The results of your idea would be the same as things are now. Just another messy and ugly process involving people following their own wants and so forth, rather then making a good and life long marriage. It would simply be more people causing hurt. Infact, the divorce rates and failures we now see are directly linked to humans trying to make the rules now, and see what it has gotten us?
So many marriages become bad and/or fail, because we think we get to act just as we like or play by our own rules and we fail to truely see what marriage is suppose to be.
2007-01-08 13:56:01 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's rediculous. Having a contractual marriage? What about getting married because you love each other and want to spend the rest of your lives together and realize that marriage is hard work and put hard work and effort into the marriage.
What I see wrong with that thinking, is marriage is ordained by God, which means what God puts together is for life.
2007-01-08 13:56:31 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you propose is already in place. "Living together" when unwed is the same as your proposition.
It seems odd that people can cohabitate for years without being married. The divorce rate goes up for these people once they "tie the knot." Seems some people cannot make and keep a firm commitment to another.
2007-01-08 13:44:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? Who wants to marry anyone with this kind of contract? I'd say you're not in love with the person - you're in love with your property. Stay single and be happy with your belongings. Smile.
2007-01-08 13:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by childofGod 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can not change the laws which God put in place. These are not man's rules, but God's rules and they will never change.
2007-01-08 13:37:27 · answer #8 · answered by Sally B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea...and for those who want a lifetime membership can get that too! I'll personally sign up for one of them.
For those short term marriages...do they have to purchase expensive rings?? Or will sterling silver do? hehe just kidding
2007-01-08 13:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by Traci D 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it's a marrige - not a test drive
2007-01-08 13:32:21 · answer #10 · answered by gabby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋