Shy people - What do you do for a living?

Question

Does the nature of your job stress you out? For example, I'm a teacher and that requires me to talk to lots of people. I have some days where I'm really stressed out from it. Sometimes I think I'm in the wrong career path. How do you deal with your shyness at work?

Answer 1

I'm a teacher too and also suffer from shyness. I totally understand your confusion and conflict. For me, once I'm in the classroom, my shyness disappears and it's all about the kids for me. It's so odd how different I am with them. But, then again, I'm playing a role that pretty much has most of the script rehearsed. I know what I'm doing in my lesson and despite the fact that the kids' reactions and answers are unpredictable, I know where I want to go with them.

In terms of my colleagues, however, that's a totally different story. I'm incredibly quiet around them and people have commented on that. It takes me a long time to open up to others and there are maybe one or two people I will talk to openly. I think some of them are getting used to the fact that I'm just a quiet person. I've also realized that I'm an introvert, meaning I need that quiet time to recharge. Because teaching requires so much "people time" I think you need to retreat from others for a while so you can do your job effectively. Remember, you're there for the kids. Of course, you want to make friends at work, but that's not necessarily the focus or priority. I think, in time, when you get comfortable with the people you work with, you'll slowly open up more and more. And I think as they get to know you, they'll realize that sometimes you do get stressed and just need time by yourself.

Because I don't want to be perceived as an anti-social snob, I try to let my compassionate side show more. I'll acknowledge my coworkers in small ways - be it a simple hello, smile or wave in the hallway, holiday card, or whatever. I'm very soft-spoken and I think some of my mannerisms automatically tell them I'm shy. I just hope they all realize that I'm trying to be friendly, but I battle shyness at the same time. The blushing thing, I'm trying to work on...haven't completely figured out how to overcome that yet. But if your coworkers smile at you, I think it's a good sign. I hope anyway ;)

But again, don't question your career path if you genuinely enjoy teaching kids. That's who you're there for. Plus, I'll bet that beneath that shy layer, there's an incredibly kind, compassionate and dedicated person who is really affecting those kids. In many of my observation reports, it's been noted that I'm soft-spoken, but that my concern and compassion really shine through. I bet you're the same way. Keep the faith!

I hope some of that helped!

Answer 2

I am no longer a shy character in any respect lol...however I recognize that God created us all with exclusive features and shy humans are humans who get plenty extra out in their on my own time then while they're round others... it should not be considered as anything faulty in a character however recieved as one other trait than any person extra outgoing...God can use each humans. Hun you must discover the "it isn't that practical" may be very professional due to the fact that plenty of shyness will also be due to the fact that the character has had a few reviews of their existence which makes them shy clear of special matters. I do not feel your being very reasonable approximately this...despite the fact that I am no longer shy I have shy peers. They could simply want encouragement and any person to keep their hand and stroll by way of matters in existence however telling them to simply chill out and drink is best sedating the character within of them no longer serving to it.

Answer 3

as I am often informed: introverted people can still perform extroverted behavior, but as it doesn't come naturally, it's stressful, as you say!

On the other hand....when you have to talk to people, you do come to realize that most of them are not The Enemy, and you can relax a bit and actually enjoy yourself some.

Unless you can enter an occupation where you can work by yourself without much interection, will be tough for you. If I was a teacher, I think I would grit my teeth and think of June, July, & August

Answer 4

I'm a Civil Engineer, and my shyness did hurt me at my previous job. I had to call contractors and tell them how to do their jobs, and that is difficult for me, especially since they had many years of experience, and I was a recent graduate.

At the job I have now, I have a supervisor who handles most of the more demanding communication, so it doesn't stress me out anymore.

Answer 5

Sorry, I can't help, I am a stay at home mom, I mostly have to talk to people when I go out so I don't ever really get overwhelmed.

Answer 6

don't resort to getting addicted to drugs(makes no difference whether they are prescribed or not), just pursue another career path. there are many jobs that you would be better suited for .

Answer 7

I stay home my husband works.I had social phobia real bad, finally went to a doc. now taking Paxil.That will really help you,ask your doc. about it.

Answer 8

Maybe try to get to know everyone your working around alot better so you wont be so uncomfortable around them.

Answer 9

Drugs work!