I'm 20 and obviously not been married, or even in a serious relationship. I have a very good friend who is 33, and his wife recently left him, and moved out. She also took their 2 sons with her, but I think they will have shared custody when they get a divorce. He is so bummed and lonely. He went from having a family to having an empty house... What can I say to him or do for him to help him cope with this?
2007-01-08 13:09:48 · 11 answers · asked by pfwqjkhk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's easy for people to want to help others when others need it. the only thing you can do is be a good friend, and be a good listener because he'll want to talk now more than ever about his life. just remember though, not to meddle with how he goes about his divorce. it's tempting to give your advice, but as far as issues like this, he needs to figure out on his own what needs to be done. you being a friend is all he needs right now.
2007-01-08 13:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
About all you can do is be a friend and listen if he wants to talk. Be careful not to become to involved in this situation as he may begin to lean on you a bit to much.
Rebounds for a guy are hard to avoid. He may put the moves on you if you get to involved in the situation. But, this could be a good thing for both of you but only after his divorce is over and done.
2007-01-08 21:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him. I am sure it is going to be rough road ahead for him, and being a person he can talk to openly, will help.
Get him to go out and doing things...active things that might keep his mind off what has happened.
Maybe find some kind of support group that he can go to?
Whatever you do, don't get involved with the guy, and have an "oops, it just happened" night. Rebound is the worse thing for this type of situation!
2007-01-08 21:18:28 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you can be a good listener for when he wants "to open up and spill his heart."
You can also get him to seek Church-related counseling.
You may want to do one thing that I strongly suggest
YOU DO NOT DO.
The time will come when the person wants your advice on what to do or how to handle a situation.
Say for example you give him your advice or opinion.
Guess who's going to be blamed in the future when your advice or opinion is contrary to the happened events.
Like I said, be a good listener, but let other professionals straighten out the emotional feelings.
2007-01-08 21:20:45 · answer #4 · answered by Living In Korea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are such a good person. Just be there for him. Honestly, nothing but time can make his pain go away. In the meantime, call him, invite him out and just listen, when he needs to talk. I hope you know what a good friend you are.
2007-01-08 21:24:24 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him. You can't really push him or rush him to talk he will have to do it on his time. Just let him know you are there for him. And no matter what he says don't cut her down as he is angry and hurt he will say alot of things right now. If you say the wrong thing he might thunp ya. Just let him know you are his friend and no matter what time it is if he needs you that you will be there.
2007-01-08 21:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by Babie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as i always said n emphasized,mutual understanding n common interest as well as tolerance r very important 4 building a happy marriage in life.whether ur friend has any misunderstanding with his spouse cos of third party(another man or woman) ?it's not so easy to divorce especially they got 2 sons already after so many years of marriage.u as a friend,u should try to please him n advise him go back to his spouse 4 the sake of his 2 sons one day.
best wishes.
2007-01-08 21:31:38 · answer #7 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen and provide verbal support, stay friends...he needs to heal completely before moving into any direction.
2007-01-08 21:20:40 · answer #8 · answered by mazl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there and let him talk, don't try to fix it cause you can't but just hang out with him and give him space when he needs it
2007-01-08 21:15:58 · answer #9 · answered by kat4use 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really there ain't nothing you can say but, to be there for him through this.
2007-01-08 21:58:37 · answer #10 · answered by stephanie_kanode 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋