I have a two year old son. He can be a little horror due to the fact that he is two. So we (his parents) have some rules and ways of disipline that we go by and we have the annoying reltives that disrespect that. For example when he gets in trouble he will chuck a tantrum and that is fine, we let him go he will stop eventualy, But if we have a relatives around (mostly the nans, wanting to be favourites) they will pick him up and give him a hug or something similar, they are trying to be favourites than he ghoes on to stop listening to his parents, how do i put a stop to this? I have already put a space between him and them asell as told them the problem straight up, but they continue to do it.
2007-01-08 13:09:11 · 8 answers · asked by Have a baby. . . 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Let them know that if it continues you will have no choice but to limit their contact. Remind them that you are his parents and that you love for them to be around, but as his parents you know what is best for him. Tell them not to even acknowledge him when he is behaving like that. Good luck
2007-01-08 13:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them how you feel. You have to do that or he will associate tantrums with good things and it will continue as he gets older. If they see that you are not giving him a row, perhaps they think it is fine. Perhaps you could be a bit tougher on him infront of the nans. Take him to another room by himself or on the naughty step, so no one can be around him. My daughter had tantrums when she got to that age and my partner would sit her by herself and it really worked. He would also tell his mother not to get upset because she was having a row, he took the bull by the horns, I'm glad he did because I'm a pansie!
And hey, having a 2 year old who never has a tantrum is very rare! Why do you think that it's called the terrible two's! My little girl is very well behaved now, but they are bound to have a little hissy fit now and again. If there is a child who doesn't then that is not the norm. ALL kids do naughty things except some are more sneeky about it.
2007-01-08 13:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your relatives are around you are going to have to be very assertive with both them and your son as even at his young age he would have picked up that they give in to his carrying on. If they dint back off organise a "meeting" with all parties involved and tell them that until their attitude changes they are GROUNDED from being with your son. If they dont like it stiff!!! They will get over it.
2007-01-08 13:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by karena k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the FACT is just because a child is 2 does mean that is why they are a terror. i have 2 teenage children and they were both very well behaved when they were 2 and still are for the most part. people have unruly toddlers because they fail to discipline. If you think 2 is bad then you will hate the preteens and teens. so your family wants to pamper your kid, so what, if you have control of him he will know that you have the final word. try discipline your kid. ignoring behavior is neglecting the problem and eventually he will not stop.l
2007-01-08 13:24:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are doing the right thing in correcting Nan. Stay strong because it will only make more problems for YOUR child. I make mine go to her room to have her fit, she can have it but only in there. My mother in law started doing the babying and so now when my daughter is throwing her fit the bedroom is off limits to all but the fit thrower. Best of luck.
2007-01-08 13:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by mcsmidge 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You might have to get tough. Tell them next time you are leaving or you will have to ask them to leave because it makes it impossible for you to parent him when they undermine your rules and you can't have that because he is allready a handfull. Good luck. That is what some grandparents do...it's just wrong.
2007-01-08 13:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your parents on the side. not in front of your son. explain to them your techniques and ask them to please help you in following them. if they oppose them, explain (nicely) that this is how you are raising your son and you want them to be a part of it.
i had to do that with my mom. after a while, she got over the "sting" of thinking i thought she was doing something wrong. she now follows MY rules when around my child.
good luck!
2007-01-08 13:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by just that girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to them privately. if you explain your reasons well, they'll understand and agree with you. it might help if when your child gets upset you move into his room so he can cry away from their arms so they don't feel compelled to interfere.
2007-01-08 13:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by super_shlee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋