Why is my life so terrible?

Question

Why is my Karma so low, and why am I always the one not chosen?

Answer 1

because i dont like you

Answer 2

Have you ever thought that not being chosen is part of your life lessons. Karma can be good or bad but it depends on the how one interprets it. Buddhism stresses not having ties to the physical world and it sounds like not being chosen signifies that happening. You need to think about what these lessons are teaching you. I was never chosen in sport either, and years later when I watched others going through the same way and the sadness that they endured I was able to empathize with them and help them to overcome this by finding other activities that they excelled at. I am sure if you sit down with a pen and paper you will be able to think of many good things that happen in your life as well. When we only look for negative that is all we see. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Life is not so terrible. Life is what you make of it.

How you deal with things is what makes life good or bad.

Not everyone has a perfect situation in life. But if you can find the good in the bad, if you can see the positive over the negative things will be better for you. Attitude is everything. A good attitude brings good things. A bad attitude drives things away.

Why people are not chosen usually has nothing to do with the person not chosen but with those doing the choosing.

But if the first thought in your mind is "Why is my life so terrible?" you need to look at all the good aspects of your life. Even if you only have one aspect that is good. You also need to realize that your life is not as bad as others. It sounds like you wanted to throw a pity party and see how many other people would show up. Not worth it. If you aren't being chosen for something that you desire, you need to work harder at it.

Answer 4

Because you say it is. You create your own destiny. Whatever you believe & expect is what you get.

I understand though, I tend to be a negative person as well & I've seen the results when I let negativity cloud my thinking (sometimes my worst fears come true). But when I dare to believe the best, to believe in myself, to go after my dreams, wonderful things happen (I bought a beautiful new home, I've shown my paintings & sold some, I'm a songwriter & have performed at a couple of venues & met some wonderful people.)

Change how you think. Love yourself. Think positive. Then go out & enjoy your life. What you put out, you get back. That is the law of Karma. So start putting positive things out there & the universe will reward you.

I know it's hard. It's a struggle for me. The negative is always easier to believe. But you can train yourself. Stop thinking "poor me, my life is terrible" & start thinking "I'm great & I'm going to make a wonderful life!" & don't let things get you down. Even when things go wrong you don't have to let it affect you. Keep your chin up no matter what!

Choose yourself! Once you have confidence in yourself others will appreciate you more & treat you better as well.

Good luck!

Answer 5

I just read your profile and 25 is NOT old!!! You are just at the start of your life and you should grab with both hands the opportunities that come your way. Some of these opportunities may lead to your heart's desire - a companion - but you know what they say ... you will find The One when you stop looking. Perhas you have been the one'not chosen'; because you look desperate! Learn to make friends with people before you start appraising them as potential partners. Let them see what you have to offer. And what DO you have to offer? Yo may feel at a low ebb at the moment but every day, for even just a few moments, try to think about some of the things you feel you have handled well, and allow yourself to experience a sense of satisfaction from it. Potential partners are looking for people with confidence, an appreciation of one's own strengths, an ability to emphasise the positive and learn from but ultimately not brood on the negative.

You can re-sculpt the persona that you present to others. It involves some regular mental exercise, just as one needs to train for physical improvement. Make the decision to change the direction things are going in, and stick with it. Incidentally, from your writing I would say you are a sensitive, astute and intelligent young man - all positive traits. Good luck.

Answer 6

Mine is so terrible too. I'm a single mom of 3, no boyfriend for a year now. Was studying to be a nurse, mom won't send me anymore money for school or for bills. Maid left last November and have been trying to juggle kids and school. Kids have been sick most of the time. Doctor fees and medicines here in the Philippines are expensive. My house payment is 3 months late. Now I'm going to have to stop school and find work.

My one friend is 32, still a virgin and never had a boyfriend.

Another friend is 33, had a boyfriend once. Has a job that only pays enough to buy food for her, her mom and her niece.

Answer 7

terrible..huh?????
well..your life seems terrible but its not..really...
you are just blinded by the fact that there always be greater and lesser persons than yourself..you've said that you're always the one not chosen..chosen for what?..well..as ive said..there always be greater and lesser person than yourself..you were not chosen because maybe someone was chosen better or greater than yourself..BUT it doesnt mean that you will not be chosen anymore..because you..yourself cannot deny the fact that you also have the abilities and talents that others dont have..right??
and even if you're not chosen always..it doesnt mean that you're always on the "lowest level" when you compare yourself with others..right?..coz there always be a lesser person than yourself..
so you're always at the middle..not that great enough to be chosen always and not that 'less" enough to be on the corner always...so cheer up!!be happy..coz life is not just a matter of recogniton or fame..remember..there are things which are not really meant for you...

Answer 8

Sorry to say this, but such as life. Don't expect things to happen for you, and one day they will. I know exactly what you mean, because I consider myself a good person. I do good things. I am good to other people. I have had a tough run in life as well, but don't think you are owed anything for the good things you do. One day good things will happen naturally for you as God has intended. My life seems to keep getting worse, but ya know, you can't let that get you down. I feel glum a lot because of it, but I still manage to do the things that I should be doing and trying to keep doing my good deeds. IF you are doing good things, karma WILL pay you off- so just be patient.

-EA

Answer 9

We can all get on our pitty pot. It is really hard sometimes to get off. But if we look around us we can always see someone who is worse off, whether financially, physically or mentally. To make yourself feel better, try doing some volunteer work in an area where you can help others that are in need. You will feel really good knowing that you did a good thing for someone and the more you do, the better you will feel. Setting around feeling bad about yourself will get you no where.

Answer 10

Maybe your on the wrong path? Some times people do what THEY want instead of doing what they are destined to do. They base their decisions on what they feel will be good for them to satisfy their desires or needs. When they should of been going down another path or seeing from another perspective. Meditate, pray and read the Bible, so you can be in tune w/ the voice inside that tells you where you need to be. Be faith full that all will come together in God's timing....not yours.

Answer 11

Life may seem awful now, but what helped me was discovering beautiful art and music. Probably meeting the girl of my dreams helped too. I would recomend finding an artist, an author, or a musician that you really like and soak them up, this really helped me a few years ago when I was very depressed.