my parents separated *cough cough divorced cough* because my dear old mom cheated on him for three months and she moved into a tiny house and I am having major trust issues, and I cant stay focused in class.What should I do?
2007-01-08 12:58:19 · 4 answers · asked by ░▒▓Mollyஐ▓▒░ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First at all...You must understand true love is not easy to find in life... much people in our way could be hurt when someone is trying to find it... but everybody has the right to do it... and when love sound the bell of your heart there is not force in the world which can stop it !!!
It is not your fault and that situation nothing have to be with you... You must try to be on calm . You are upset because you feel insecure... Try to live your life the best you can handle ... study hard, find a partial job... probably you are going to be emotional mature before other kids which is the best can life offer to us...
Ypu will be ok... I am pretty sure your parents will be always loving you , no matter if they don't live together anymore!!
2007-01-08 15:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by Mystefeis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural for you to feel insecure right now. You are experiencing a very traumatic event, and you probably are feeling like you can't talk about it very much. (cough cough embarassed cough) That is also natural. If you are intelligent enough to ask the question, then you are also intelligent enough to understand that you in no way are responsible for the actions of either of your parents, and you also don't have to choose sides. Do you have a favorite aunt, a school counselor, a family friend to talk to? Your trust issues are completely understandable, but it is important that you find the courage to reach out to someone who can focus on helping you through this. Definitely talk to your school counselor about your trouble staying focused. They may be able to lighten the schoolwork for a short time so you don't become too overwhelmed, and they can also provide some resources to find someone trustworthy for you to talk to. You can also talk to your parents about providing counseling for you. As bad as this seems right now, it WILL get better, and it doesn't have to be the end of your relationship with either parent. Hang tough.
2007-01-08 21:15:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to stay focus in class and in your life. I know this is hard for you. But you can't take this personal. Prepare your life for what's a head of you. Don't put your life of hold because of their divorce. They will be fine. You must worry about keeping yourself together. You need them both but you have to realize that you now have them in their own little separate way. Don't use this situation not to trust, give everyone their fair chance. Until someone does something to you, just trust them until they give you a reason not to. In life we are going to be faced with many painful situations. But we must handle them as they come and don't get lost along the way. Things will get better for you just trust in you, and take care of you. Don't judge them just love them as you always have. After all without them there wouldn't be you. The special person you are. Be strong, hang in there. You will make it through this. You have be through many things before. This may be the hardest but you are able to handle it. You are a fighter so keep on fighting for you.
2007-01-08 21:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by relationcounseling 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you must be mad at her but give it time. I know what she did was very wrong, but try to understand that she has to live with what she did. I hope you can forgive her one day because you're going to hurt yourself more than you know.
2007-01-08 21:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋