What is wrong with me? For 22 years, I have been in love with the father of my children.?

Question

Once again, I took back the father of my only 2 children. He keeps comming back to me. I have never loved anyone else. I let him live with us again, because he really had no where to go, and this man still, once again, disrespected me by e-mailing his ex girlfriend on my computer, then, hiding in my bathroom and calling her on his cell phone to plead with her to respond to the e-mail he sent her. So, I told him he had to leave. Now I feel bad. I know I should not feel bad, everytime I let him into my life, it's good for a while, but he just keeps doing innapropriate things. I put up with it and say nothing at first, but It eats away at me. So, my question is: Should I feel bad that I kicked him out again?

Answer 1

it's understandable that you feel bad for kicking him out of your house. think girl! can you bear him in your house doing nothing but feel pain? obviously he's just using you as a safety net.. because he knows that you love him and can provide him with life's neccessities(food, shelter, clothing...sex..) that's not fair. can you bear the fact that if you accept him.. it's going to be like this for the rest of your life..PLEASE LOVE YOURSELF! he's abusing you already! the pain you are feeling at this moment(bec u kicked him out) is just temporary.. it will pass. concentrate on giving a good life for your kids..love yourself..it's time to let go..

Answer 2

Simply put, NO YOU SHOULD NOT FEEL BAD. What you must remember, even though it hurts, is the fact he is a very good actor. You have fallen for his tricks only because of this and the fact that you care more than he does. If you continue to allow him to disrespect you as a woman and as a wife, it will make the children think this is how a relationship should be like.

I am sorry to say he is being selfish and inconsiderate. It will take time but you can find someone who thinks of you and the children not just of himself.

Everyone makes mistakes in a partnership-the hardest part is saying it did not work out and moving on. You have given the benefit of the doubt. Please consider moving on for you are worth far more than he will every know.

Answer 3

No way girl. Stop thinking of him and think of those 2 children you have. They need there mom and a good role model as a father not some wanna be. You are a strong women for putting up with this, but now your kids are too and that isn't right. I don't know how old they are but I know if it keeps up they will learn from him and treat women like he dose as stepping stones. Or think they should be treated like that. They will ask you questions you can't answer or just don't wanna. He had his chance now give someone else one.

Good luck I hope you and your kids do great.

Answer 4

Ummm are you serious? He sounds like a looser. I know you might feel bad but that is just because you have kids with him. Tell me, would you feel bad if you didnt have kids with him? If you were single, he was living with you, and you had no responsibilites, would you care then? Doubtful! Dont ever let him in again. You did the right thing. Its OK to feel bad, but feel it for a second then move on and wake up. Dont ever let anyone treat you like that. You are worth way more!! Good Luck! Steph

Answer 5

The man is just using you because he knows from past experience that you'll give in. He doesn't care about you, if he did he'd not be contacting other women. I know it's terribly hard to let go of someone you love but unless you want to repeat the cycle over and over again for the rest of your life you've got to finally let go and move on. Don't feel bad, don't let him play with your emotions like that. He deserved it, now stick to your guns and keep telling him 'NO'. Best of luck to you.

Answer 6

Time for you to grow up and move on. If you are that much of a dog that you can't find another guy then give up on them and get a real hot girlfriend. As long as you take him back he will keep abusing you. Your children must be really disgusted with your lack of backbone. Any woman that lets a man abuse her and use her like you have permitted needs to be committed. Show Your children that you can do the right thing and keep him out of all your lives.

Answer 7

Are you kidding me? You feel bad about kicking him out. No wonder he keeps on stepping all over you. You let him. He e-mailed and called his ex, in YOUR house, after you let him move in because he had nowhere to go. Are you listening, as you're reading? What's it going to take? When you find him in YOUR bed with her? And your poor kids, getting their hopes up again. Shame on you. Move on, have some self-respect and stand on your own two feet. Stand tall and be proud of yourself. If not for yourself, then for your children. I really wish you the best. God Bless.

Answer 8

Nope. Try and remember that your kids are looking to you on how a relationship is. If you are constantly letting yourself get hurt, they're going to see that. Also, why put up with being sad when there is somebody out there who will make you happy. I'm a firm believer that there is somebody for everybody, go find your somebody and stop feeling guilty!!!

Answer 9

You know the saying "when you love someone let them go, if they return they are yours if they don't, they never were". Well...........if they keep coming back and leaving maybe they were never yours to begin with......if that makes any sense. Break it off once and for all and move on with your life. Find someone else who will be there for you and your kids who you can truely call yours.

Answer 10

The best thing to do is tell her why you don't want for her or you to see her father. Reason with her and you may get an answer.