My mom kicked me out and now I'm living with my aunt and uncle. They're nice but really strict. I have to be in the house at 8pm and it's lights out at 9pm. I have to wake up at 5am everyday to make breakfast for them. They like to eat breakfast in bed. The only time they let me stay out late is if I'm working a late shift but then I still have to call them when I get out and wake up at 5am. I even have to get up this early on weekends. Why would they do this?
2007-01-08 12:54:52 · 27 answers · asked by J 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
because your mom kicked you out for a reason. you have no self control, probably. and your aunt and uncle have good sence. if you are not going to go to college, then you will have a sad life. get a good education. and do something with your life.
2007-01-08 13:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's see. You aren't living at home because? You left that out. Maybe that would be a clue to us about why you are being treated as an untrustworthy inmature person. When you are dependent on other people, usually your parents, you have to obey their rules. They are stioll responsible for you emotionally as long as they are housing and feeding you. So, the people you are living with just may be trying to show you that it could be worse, and it can still be worse. Have you thought about all the problems and heartache you have caused the grownups in your life up until this point? Maybe that is what they are trying to get you to see. Does it maks you wish you had behaved and stayed at home with the ones that love you, really love you? Not that they don't but parents are usually the ones that get put through it all because children know they have them emotionally blackmailed and they push it to the limits at times. I had one that did and it was a heartcahe for her and I. So, maybe you can turn this around by doing what is right and maybe beg to be home and promise to obey the rules. I feel for you...you are young, i pray that you are learning something and that this will make you a better person. God bless.
2007-01-08 21:05:23 · answer #2 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did your mom kick you out? Maybe your aunt and uncle are a little strict but there is a reason they are this way. You should be asking them why they are doing this. True, technically you are an adult as defined by federal law, but are an adult as defined by WHO you are? Are you responsible? Mature? I have met 18 year olds who needed to be treated like kids because thats how they acted. Why would they do this? I don't think anyone hear can answer that question for you-at least not honestly.
2007-01-10 15:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by HiTekRednek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I both had curfews when we were still living in our parents home at the age of 18. It was hard because we were only home on college breaks BUT it was their house, their rules.
They believed that trouble started after midnight AND they were not going to enable me to be up to "no good".
My in laws believed their older children should be in an a reasonable hour because they had small children too. They had to be up for work the next morning and the little ones had school. They weren't nearly as strict as mine on the weekends.
I am glad my parents had boundaries. I see why now that I have my own son.
Why did your mom kick you out?
Since you are 18 and have a job, save up for an apartment on your own.
Good luck! SD
2007-01-08 21:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by SD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you probaly did something bad to get kicked out in the first place so maybe they are picking up the slack. Look, you are an adult, but when you are living in someone elses' home. They make the rules, plain and simple. I think that breakfast thing is a little bizzare, but still, it isn't your house. Maybe you can try and talk them into letting you have a bit more freedom though.
2007-01-08 21:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by Just Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if your aunt and uncle are punishing you for your past bad acts at your mom's. They feel that a right rein (and a little bit of slavery, honestly) are correct for you. You are in jail - just your relative's jail.
How long has it been since you moved in with them? If you can, I think you need to sit down and ask them how you can build their trust. Address what you did wrong before and how you have changed. Talk about your future plans. Tell them about your friends - who they are, what you plan to do.
Ask them what you can do to get some "parole." If they won't budge, I would suggest talking to a school counselor or minister.
2007-01-09 11:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are doing this out of tough love. I'm wondering if you have somehow really messed up in the past to cause this type of punishment. Go along with it. It's teaching you valuable discipline that will benefit you. If you were in the military, it would be similar. When they feel you are a responsible, respectful individual, they will probably go a little easier on you.
2007-01-08 22:46:29 · answer #7 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are living under their roof. It is your aunt and uncle 's house therefore, you have no choice but to listen, obeys and follows through with the curfews. 18 or not....You do not have a choice if you want to have a bed to sleep at night.
They want to make you understand that in life there are rules and regulation that everyone have to follow. That including you.
Good luck
2007-01-08 21:13:29 · answer #8 · answered by solitude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move out that sucks im 18 and i stay out till 130 am all the time and dont go to bed till like 5am and than i wake up whenever
2007-01-08 21:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by Ginger C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are prolly doing this because they are encouraging you to move out and live on your own. You are living there, free of rent I am assuming, and they were nice enough to pay for everything. My suggestion is that you get a full time job, find a cheap apartment and something with public transportation, and move outta there!! :D
2007-01-08 21:11:33 · answer #10 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋