I had a best friend last year that always caused alot of trouble for me. I gave him so many chances to gain my trust back but finally I stopped being his friend. Now a year later he calls and says he is in love w/me and that he wants another chance. Wat do I do?!
2007-01-08 12:48:56 · 24 answers · asked by Crissy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Crissy, leopards do change their spots...but not often. You honored yourself when you offered, were rejected and dropped him. Now he seeks to begin something that never was. So, do you honor yourself by opening to him? Your choice. If you are seriously considering re-kindling the old flame, you might have a serious conversation with him and ask what he is looking for. Are you ready to provide him the answers he is asking? Does he offer you what you are looking for? Yesterday was then...this is now. You're both different people. Look in yourself and ask if you are really interested in him today.
2007-01-08 12:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That Happened To Me Once. What I Did was Told Him, "I'll Give You a Chance, But As A Friend. If You Gain My Trust, We can Try It Out." That's What I did And We've Been To Together For 8 Months. But Really, If You Don't Like Him, Why Should You go For It?
2007-01-08 12:53:23 · answer #2 · answered by Meg! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you made the right decision by leaving him alone, if he was causing problems. I think you should leave him alone now!
you want some one that can influence you to be a better person, not bring trouble. You sound like a good person that can acknowledge the wrong type of people to be around. So you will make the right decision if he is right for you or not.
2007-01-08 12:56:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know what your boundaries are, and let him know that what he did realy hurt you and trust isnt something you can break and expect it to be all better the next day. maybe you should make a list of things that he'd have to do to gain your trust. Love is a serious thing but maybe you should step back a think. if he didnt respect you enough to keep your trust, how can he truly love you? its just a working progress.
2007-01-08 13:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe everything you hear... If he is in to bad things then you deserve better. He sounds like trouble . I f you think it is something there then just be friend at a distance until he proves that he isn't still doing the same stuff
2007-01-08 12:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the best thing that you should do is give a chance if he does not do anything wrong forgive but you have to let him in your life but not tooo much and if he does do something wrong just say mate where over and done. now just friends
2007-01-08 12:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by Jesse S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He said he's in love with you after a year of not talking to you? Give me a break. The friendship is over, leave it alone.
2007-01-08 12:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if he really loves u as a friend or more than a friend he could have told u that after weeks of u breakin up with him or months but after a whole yr,i think he just missed the times u both spent...if u feel that u love him too give him a chance
2007-01-08 12:54:37 · answer #8 · answered by Tara 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
leave him alone. you said yourself that he has caused you a lot of trouble. And he is just now calling you a year later? he is probably just lonely now and coming to you because you are safe for him. Tell him to move on.
2007-01-08 12:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by m j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
second chances are ok but giving him a thrid chance isn't fair for your part..don't you see the cycle he's doing...if you don't want to get hurt tell him that it's really over and you have given him alot of chances already... and that you want to move on with your life without him...
2007-01-08 12:54:45 · answer #10 · answered by anette 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋