Hey, well I am due to have my first baby Febuary 10th.. and I am so scared I will be a bad parent. This whole pregnancy has gone by so fast.. I thought I would feel more prepared I guess but I feel like a big mess! I really don't want to ruin her life.. Is it normal to feel so unprepared??
2007-01-08 12:23:40 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yes, it's normal to feel that way. That's because you love her so much already and it only gets worse..lol! Don't worry, you'll be a good parent. Yes, you will make mistakes (and the first time you make her cry, you will probably cry too!) but as long as you love her and do your best, she will be a very lucky child to have such a wonderful Mom! Congratulations! Good luck and God Bless!!
2007-01-08 12:35:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
What everyone has said is true. It is perfectly normal to feel this way. And you will laugh about it a few months after the baby comes. You will have times when you will have no idea what to do. Remember to rely on people you trust or admire. Maybe your parents or friends and neighbors who've had children. And make sure your first visits with the doctor are informative. Ask every question you can think of. Most pediatricians know that new mothers are nervous, and will be willing to answer your questions. You are not expected to know everything. No one does. You learn as you grow.
Oh and buy a baby book and start reading now. I like Dr. Sears, I forgot the name of the book, but I know his is popular. Just look it up at Baby's R Us. I found it more helpful than my own mom.
2007-01-08 20:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by double0negitive 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is very normal to feel unprepare for your first child. It is something you have never experience before, and you don't know exactly how it will feel or make you behave. I had my first daughter when I was 19. I was scared to death, believe me. But I have to tell you, that the moment you look into your child's eyes, you will know deep inside your heart that you will do everything in your power to be the best mother you can be. Sure you probably will make a mistack here and there, but everyone does. I did thats for sure! Just remember to always be there for your child through thick and thin, listen to what they tell you when they are happy and when they are sad. Support them in everything they decide to do even if you may not completely agree in it and always show them that you love and care for them! Any mistakes you make besides supporting and loving them with go with the breeze. In the end, your child will always keep the love you shared with them closest to their heart and they will forget the little mistakes you may think are huge right now!!! And trust me when you hear your child truely and honestly tell you they love you with all their heart, you will know that you are the best mother in the entire world! Good Luck to you and I know you will be a great mom!!! If you ever need to talk please feel free to email me! Hugs!!!
2007-01-08 22:27:27 · answer #3 · answered by ஐ♥Just Call Me Mommy♥ஐ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's normal, and the fact that you are worrying shows that you are going to be a great mom. You won't be a bad parent, you will just be in an unfamiliar situation, and that takes some getting used to.
Just take each day at a time and you will be fine.
Don't get overly worked up about any mistakes you make, for we have all made, and will all make mistakes.
Also, at the moment, hormones blow everything out of proportion, making everything seem worse than it is.
you're going to be fine. You will be a great mommy.
Good luck!
2007-01-08 20:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your age but it would make a difference. However, since you have made the mature decision to conceive, carry and deliver you already have a lot going for you.
Every parent at one time or another is concerned/afraid of making the wrong choices but makes the choice with gut instinct anyway and most times turns out OK. One advice is that when you find that you have made a incorrect choice be mature to apologize and explain to the child. They will be able to learn/deal with the honesty and mistake better.
There are a lot of parenting classes, support groups that you can make use of. Also books, your mother, older mother friends. Don't be too afraid or too proud to ask. You will be fine.
2007-01-08 20:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by GERALD S. MCSEE 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel! I had a dream last night that I was totally unprepared!!! I'm due Feb. 7th and I feel like this pregnancy just flew by too!!! In my dream, I didn't know how to change a diaper (which I've done many times). I didn't have extra clothes for my baby. Everything that could go wrong went wrong!
I'm sure we'll be fine though. :) If we're worrying about, it means we'll be more aware!
Congratulations and good luck!
2007-01-08 20:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by JoesWifee 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
YES, I too felt the same way mostly because I had no experience with a baby, but once your baby is born you change and learn together. But you should probably read parenting books to make you feel more prepared and go to childbirth classes. You can read magazines like Baby Talk and just prepare yourself as much as you can mentally. You will do just fine :)
2007-01-08 20:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by D 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry, Everyone is scared when they have there first child. I was scared to have my first child. I thought i would be a bad mother too, But i turned out to be a good mother, just take care of the baby the way you think it should be taked care of. There is no right or wrong way to raise a child.
Oh, and congrats about the baby!
2007-01-08 20:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is ABSOLUTELY normal. I remember on the way to the hospital (to be induced), saying "I changed my mind. I can't do this." It is true, your whole life changes....but the only important thing you have to do is love that baby with all your heart and the rest comes natural. Sure, you will make mistakes....but so has every other mother in the world. What you are feeling now is hormones changing....but it gets better (17 years later, I've made lots of mistakes, but he is still whole, complete and one of the greatest things in my life!)
2007-01-08 20:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry you'll do fine!!! Make sure to ask as many questions as you can think of after you deliver the baby. That's what the doctors and nurses are there for. And just remember no question is a stupid question and I'm sure they've been asked them before!!! Congrats and good luck on the delivery!!!
2007-01-08 20:29:15 · answer #10 · answered by alaskagirl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋