I am now 32 years old. All during my HS days I use to sit alone in the lunch cafe. In college nobody ever game me the time or place.
Now at 32, I came to realize I am gay, but no guys like me. I lost my job a while back. I no longer believe in myself cause nobody else seems to. I've tried lose weight and have(went from 246 lbs down to 198 as of today).
All I get for answers is stop the pity game. I am sick of this answer. Sick and tired of people saying it's about attitude. Come on, it's all about being good looking.
What am I suppose to think when a guy ignores you after sending you have sent him his pictures? This has NOT been just one guy, but thousands. I've gotten to the point where I don't care any more!
2007-01-08 12:15:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
congrats on the weight loss.. now i want you to try something.. it kinda of like role playing...next time you get a chance go to a gay club.. i want to to try to pretend your some one .. anyone that you want to be.. but don't over do it... and try to believe in your self..and if your sending your pics to these really hot studs,, then stop and start with the 3s and 4s they are easier to please and don't demand that you be picture perfect.. and it ain't all about looks .. but until you get your confidence up it will seem like it// true beauty comes from with in but if you don't feel like your beautiful than that will be what shines out to the world.. good luck
2007-01-08 12:27:16 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dude, read your own post... it does feel a bit like you're resentful and pitying yourself to a degree.
the whole gay world is NOT shallow... there are ways to meet guys, but the whole online scene is designed for shallow, quick hook-ups, so that's probably not your best approach.
i don't know where you live, but you're still in your prime at 32 and you're working hard to improve yourself (come on, at 246 pounds, you must admit it's not easy for anyone, gay or not). so keep on working on your physical pride... you're getting there, so just continue to have faith that the right guy is out there. remember, gay guys come in all shapes and sizes and not everyone is a perfect 10.
once you reach your target weight, go out and buy some new clothes that make you feel great about yourself and what you have accomplished and meet REAL people... forget this online nonsense.
good luck to you!
2007-01-08 12:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by nystrele 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry buddy life is hard for the lonely...I think MAYBE (I don't really know) you might be focused too much on getting a relationship going, which if you do too quickly will turn off anyone, gay or straight, guy or girl. This sounds cliche, but your best bet would probably try to become involved in some activity clubs in your area, preferably for gay people. That way you can focus on having fun and company, and from that mix is where love comes from- not from some online dial-a-desperate kind of chat room.
btw, congratulations on your weight loss.....make sure it's from exercise and not starving yourself though, eh?
2007-01-08 12:21:34 · answer #3 · answered by niwriffej 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you nailed it. You said you don't care anymore and that probably comes across.
If you are not confident, and take care of yourself by being clean, wearing clothes that are appropriate for your size and somewhat stylish, and the fact that you don't have a job could be reasons why no one wants to date you.
You need to ask a few people - friends, co-workers, family, etc. what suggestions they can think of that might help you.
It may be appearance, you might have bad-breath, you might have a negative attitude, but you need to find the problem or problems.
2007-01-08 13:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Online it's kind of difficult to really know someone because a person isn't around you to get to know you and there's more people to choose from online so alot of times people end up going for the hottest guys on the site hoping they can get with him but it's mainly about sex, so the hot guy has a problems too because more than likely people would just want to get to know him in order to have sex with him. Show your face pics online, Don't show nudes pictures online because all a guy going to want from you is sex or more nude pics so he can get off. You talk, get to know the person. I understand what you mean though about these guys.
2007-01-08 12:47:35 · answer #5 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im really sorry, some people are just like that kinda like me...the only reason i have friends is because the 2 friends i used to have got more friends which made them my friends...oh yeah im 15...my cousin is lesbian and my friend is gay...i could be your friend if you like
2007-01-08 12:21:05 · answer #6 · answered by thenightgoddess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be more secure,it is all about aditude
2007-01-08 12:21:09 · answer #7 · answered by carin1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a dork
2007-01-08 16:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your walk .. and your jeans are to loose
2007-01-08 12:19:26 · answer #9 · answered by STORMY K 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋