Part time boyfriend?

Question

I recently split with my bf as he has started a new job&didnt have much time 2 see me&because he was always so busy i hardly heard from him.This got me thinkin he had gone off me&i felt like he didnt care anymore.we ended up splitting up even tho before he started to new job our relationship was amazing, we never argued & was really happy. I just couldnt handle the way things went,the thought of him not caring made me really unhappy.We have had about 6 weeks apart,we met up last week and talked about the situation.we both want2get back together but he is even more busy this year so i would probably only see him once a week&i wouldnt hear from him often as the hours he works are long.. I am worried that if we get back together i again will feel uncared 4,which may lead to me feeling unhappy,i used to ask if he had gone off me which led to a argument cos i didnt believe it was just cos he was so busy.shall i get back with him and put up with only seeing him once a week?

Answer 1

I agree with what most people have said here - you are being a little intolerant and in fact I think you come across as a bit too needy and unsupportive of your bf. The only thing that puzzles me here is why he would want to go back with you after all all this stress you are giving him when he is already working very hard. You seem to me to lack confidence in yourself - constantly thinkinghe has 'gone off' you - this is an unattractive feature in anyone and you should work on that if only for your own sake. i do not think you should, as someone else suggested, go out with other people as that will break the bond that clearly exists between you and your bf, but I do think you need to be more independent and find other interests besides him. Many people have to live like this, seeing partners (sometimes spouses) only once every few months or even less, and in your case you know it will probably not be for ever. He is probably trying to make a secure future for the two of you.

If it turns out that in fact he has another woman, or a secret wife and kids stashed away elsewhere, then you will have had time to develop yourself and your outside interests and you will be able to carry on without him. But I trust you will have a positive outcome here. Just try to see a long-term plan.

Answer 2

Firstly you need to find something to do with your time, other than worrying how often this hard working guy calls you or sees you.
He is dedicated, hard working....... you are being too needy and you need to ease up.
He is trying to do the right thing, you should be supporting him not criticizing him.
You are all about me, me ,me ... what about him?
He is unable to be with you 24-7 and why should he be.
You can't cling onto somebody and be their shadow every day. how boring!!!!!!! You are being very selfish......
You should be planning your special night out when you do get together and make it really great instead of torturing the guy with false accusations...
He will never be able to give you all the attention you seem to want.
You need to get busy like him and then maybe your can appreciate the fact that people have to plan and work for their futures.
Go out and get a job, do volunteer work and quit nagging the poor guy.
You are totally in the wrong here and you have pushed him out the door because you couldn't get your way and get all the attention you want.
get real and grow up.
You had better start over with this one and do it right this time, if he lets you!!!!!!

Answer 3

Get over yourself! The guy is WORKING, he's trying to make a life for himself ... just because he can't spend the time YOU want him to spend with you in your company doesn't mean he doesn't care for you! The fact that he contacted you should tell you he does.

Yes, take him back by all means, he sounds like a rare diamond. And then go off yourself and get with with a LIFE, so you're not sitting around moping cos he can't spend time with you ...

God, would you ever grow up ... neediness is NOT attractive.

Answer 4

You should let him know how you feel. YOu should try going out with other people to test your relationship. DO you really care about him and you can't stop thinking about him? If yes then tell him you would get back together with him but you can't keep feeling the way you do. Try it out see how it goes and if you are still feeling lonely and not cared for............then it's not meant to be and you should see other people.

Answer 5

hon people would die to have a relationship like u and ur b/f...if u love him as much as u say u do, go back to him...be happy, if u only see him once a week then so be it make the most our of the time that u have with him...g/l

Answer 6

if you love him dont let a job ruin it, my boyfriend has just broken up with him and i want him back so much and id do just about anything for him to say he wants me back like your guy has. if he didnt care about you he wouldnt want you back and once a week is better than nothing at all, at least hes working and not off with someone else, id go for it.

Answer 7

OF COURSE!!!!!!!! Do you love him?... if the answer is affirmative, so... you must be tolerant with him. You'll have more time later. My bf lives in other country, very very far!, 6 months I have not been seeing him!, but I wait for him, cos I love him.

Godd luck! ;) x

Answer 8

while it is composed of "Love", having a factor time courting could properly be an fairly great thank you to act for the long-term. Too many people have faith or desire to have faith that each and every courting that comes alongside is or must be the "long term" dedication for his or her schedule in "actual existence" particularly it rather is not the single.

Answer 9

What is he so busy doing? Does he not socialise on the weekends?
Doesn't look like he cares that much, I think you are wasting your time. Move on, I'm sorry.

Answer 10

if you love him that much and he loves you too you should try again. if you do start having doubts again just remember how you felt when you had broken up