Well you see, we're sort of new, but have a ton in common and share lots of great times together (some not, but most yes). The thing is, I see her hanging around a lot of guy friends and I'm not sure if I should address this? or would I seem too "demanding" or seem like I don't want her to have any friends that are guys (except me)? I don't wanna seem like I own her or anything, but it's sorta "annoying" when she always hangs around other guys so much, i mean i don't hang out with that much girls since I don't think it's right
2007-01-08 11:44:11 · 17 answers · asked by therearemanygirls 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I think that you should just be open with your GF and explain how you feel. But just consider that maybe your jealousy is causing you to overreact? I mean, unless your GF lives in a cave 50 miles from civilization, she's going to have relationships with other people, ladies and boys both. And it's your choice to not hang out with other ladies, but in my opinion that's pretty stupid because there's nothing wrong with being friends with the opposite gender unless you want to isolate yourselves. nd that doesn't sem ery healthy to me. My suggestion is that you get used to it, and get over that.
2007-01-08 11:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ misschels ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel worried, but one way to get a better feel for the situation is to meet these guys she is hanging out with. Sometimes couples like to have friends seperate from the relationship, but others just like to have a group of friends. It is not anyones else's place to tell you what you should prefer. After meeting them then you can have a better feel for what is going on. Don't be demanding, but ask if maybe you all can go do something that is of similar interest.
2007-01-08 11:55:16 · answer #2 · answered by katnkarebear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may say this to you bro, she might of known these guys before, and maybe even they are relatives or ex boyfriends, well, then you should worry lol. But just keep it cool, take a deep breath, and just every now and then nonchalantly just peek and see if they are just talking about school or common stuff. Dont let it go further if they ask for a number or to go to their place. You have to trust your girlfriend, she trusts you right? Well give her some common courtesy and give it right back to her and let her know how you feel!
2007-01-08 11:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by jared kandlstorfer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait and see, if you are meant to be a couple, you will both want to hang out together, and not give the wrong impression. Only time will tell. On the other hand, you could find a girl who behaves in the way (sounds "ladylike") you prefer, and save yourself the hassle
2007-01-08 11:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless she is doing a pole dance and strip tease,with them, I wouldnt worry about it.
Alot of girls prefer to hang out with guys b/c guys don't get catty and gossip all the time.
I personally have mostly guy friends and choose to work with all guys. It's just alot easier to deal with guys than girls. I'm not a person that wants to deal with all of the BS that girls can bring.
I would just ask her why most of her friends are guys...I think you are going to hear that she is more comfortable with them.
2007-01-08 11:51:47 · answer #5 · answered by frenchie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to talk to her about it, but only to let her know how it makes you feel. Don't make it seem like you are asking her to stop hanging out with her other friends, and definitely don't make any demands or ultimatums.
Playing it cool might work in the short term, but it could backfire on you if you let it fester and bother you without telling your girlfriend how you feel.
2007-01-08 11:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by ambr123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what your relationship is new with her. She probably knew all these guys from before you met her. They are her friends. Don't control her as in you 'own' her. You don't 'own' her, she is not property, she is a social human being. If you have a problem with it, then take ownership of yourself and look at your insecurities. Nobody owns anybody. You OWN yourself. She will have to learn to balance that. Her life, Her friends, and you. Are you guys young?
2007-01-08 11:54:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These guys are her friends. If you trust her then you should back off and not worry so much.
It isn't like she is flirting with them.
Don't be afraid to have friends that are girls either. As long as you are both loyal to eachother.
2007-01-08 11:49:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was she friends with these guys before she was with you? Maybe she's a flirt. Don't be too jealous, but at the same time you deserve someone you don't have to worry too much about.
2007-01-08 11:48:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
90% of my friends are guys. Most of my boyfriends have had a problem with this. I just relate better to guys & I don't like girls! I could see how you could have a problem with it. Maybe you can get to know them!
2007-01-08 11:52:51 · answer #10 · answered by Rocky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋