This girl has been my friend for years, so I don't want to stop being friends with her. The problem is that her boyfriend is always making anti-semitic comments and jokes around me and other people. I have never had to hide my religion before He doesn't know I am a Jew and it's uncomfortable because I have never had to hide my religion before. I have to stick my star of David necklace down my shirt every time I see him. My friend refuses to leave him and I can't take this much longer. She has only been dating him for 3 months and we have been friends since we were 8! She claims it is "true love", but it seems impossible that it could be true love because they have been dating for so short a time. Should I stop hanging out with her? Cause where ever she goes anywhere he is there too!
2007-01-08 11:36:02 · 10 answers · asked by Kali 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't argue with your friend about her boyfriend. People are rarely rational about their relationships.
Your best bet is to be yourself around her and her boyfriend. If he makes you uncomfortable or nervous, avoid being around him. If that means you see less of your friend, so be it.
Don't hide the things you think are important just to maintain a relationship that may not be working any longer. It's very normal for people to outgrow friendships they made as children. If your friend comes to her senses, welcome her back with open arms, but remember where you stood with her when a man came along.
2007-01-08 11:43:49 · answer #1 · answered by ftapao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid your friend is no friend.She probably has no idea what the Nazis did to jews in the past.So maybe it will be a wise decision to get a documentary of the holocaust and both of you sit down together and watch it and at the end of it if she does not see anything wrong with the way her boyfriend carries on,then, she is no friend of yours,DUMP THE GARBAGE! Anybody who makes such ignorant remarks about other races can never be a friend of mine,and if your friend were a real friend she would have dissociated herself from him as soon as she found out he was anti-semitic and if you meant anything to her at all.
2007-01-08 11:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by babyface miller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1: Don't hide your faith. Wear your Star of David proudly, ESPECIALLY in front of him. Let him get a good look at it.
#2: If you think it'll make him uncomfortable, GOOD!!! It should! Rascists and anti-semites are basically under-educated goons. They live in a world that has long since passed them by... well, except in the middle east, and look how far backwards they've fallen over there.
2007-01-08 11:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by scorpio_draconis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking to the quire here sweety!! First: DO NOT hide your S.O.D. from ANYONE!!! It's your reminder of what G-D means to you and you to Him!! Second: If the guy is so dumb as to make racial/ethnic and religious-based off-colored remarks about other people in front of you, STOP HANGING OUT WITH YOUR FRIEND WHEN HE'S AROUND!!! Third: It sounds like this is your friends first love. Give her some time and patience too. If she can't see the pain and hurt he's causing you, TELL HER ALL ABOUT IT!!! DON'T HOLD BACK!!! Last, and certainly not least, pray to G-D about this. He knows it all. Trust me, I talk to Him all the time!!!!!!
2007-01-08 11:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice, or answer to your question, is that you should NEVER hide who you are for anyone - especially a racist.
If I had to go into the same room as this bonehead, I would wear my star of david, my yarmulke, and carry a Torah - I would sacrifice a friendship before I would sacrifice my faith or my self. Those two things I compromise for NO ONE.
Please - be yourself always and be proud of who you are. If this woman has a racist boyfriend - what does that say about her? Especially knowing what your faith is while you sit and listen to this idiot say racist comments.
FP
2007-01-08 11:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is not your friend sweetheart.A friend would of told her bf that u were jewish and a old friend and that those type of comments were not exceptable. You are going to find out as u get older that u need to realize that if people don't treat u with diginity then they are not worth being around.Find someone that really cares.You deserve that type of friend.Good luck
2007-01-08 11:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the best thing to do is to tell them the truth. What do you think about your friend and her dating just express your feelings to her she might get it and if she does not and still hangs out with him at less you tried. Anyway you might tell the boy that he should stop making fun of it and then tell him if he laughs out than that means he is a jerk if he understands than you got it!
2007-01-08 11:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by ikizler_twins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you hanging around?? yu are being abused by this idiot!he knows what he is doing!!they always do? anti semites are a poor excuse for a human being!!get away from this trash!!you dont deserve it! and P.S. wear your Star!!---proudly!, and I am not Jewish!
2007-01-08 11:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by richard c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you hide your necklace you are hiding your religion,and your friend should be able to manage time between the two of you,and if your friend is really your friend she'll make it possible
2007-01-08 11:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friend. She can then in turn, relay to her boyfriend that if he cared about her...he wouldn't make remarks like that make her jewish friends feel uncomfortable. It's not fair to you..OR her for him to continue behaving like that.
2007-01-08 11:40:35 · answer #10 · answered by Ronijn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋