I see no evidence that either gender is more than negligably worse than the other gender. These men and women that are dysfunctional in relationships with the opposite sex often function very well otherwise. Why do we keep blaming the opposite sex for our own shortcomings, including our naive (and then bad) choices in mates? Some people shoudn't be dating at all (until repairs have been made), and some need be be more careful than others, right?
Your opinions are welcome.
2007-01-08 11:29:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
i agree! people should take responsibility for themselves, their choices, and their lives. it's really the only way to actually improve anything, cuz you can only change yourself! by pointing fingers people relieve themselves of the responsibility and the CHANCE to change and make things better for themselves (and maybe the world... okay, now i'm gettin a little sappy)...
yes, individuals need to fix themselves before they should say something else is broken
2007-01-08 11:38:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People make life-changing decisions in the blink of an eye - without even a second thought.
Ooops, I'm pregnant. Oh well, I'll just put my next 20 years on hold.
Ooops, I married a person I realize I cannot stand. Oh well, let's have twelve kids and make the best of it. Bury our heads in the sand.
Ooops, the person I'm dating has nothing in common with me. How about we scream and fight for the next five years until we finally break up?
Ooops, I have no respect for members of the opposite sex. I will continue to insult and degrad them, become more and more bitter and then blame them in the end.
This site is a window into people's dysfunctional mental states. Most people would rather blame or bury their heads in the sand than to admit they might not be 100% right all the time.
2007-01-08 23:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by heathen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think either gender is better or worse at dating. Neither gender really knows what the other one wants, and neither gender has a clue when it comes to understanding the other. It's on a scale from the more clued in to the clueless. Who wants to blame themselves for a failed relationship? It's easier to blame the other person/gender, and sometimes people don't realize what they did wrong. I know some people who should stay out of the gene pool, but they keep trying to make things work, with often disasterous results.
2007-01-08 22:56:35 · answer #3 · answered by K S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you think 60% is high enough? I believe it is higher but, that's my opinion of course.
And personally, I don't blame my shortcomings in the dating world on anyone but, me and what has happened in the past (my childhood).
Example: I was dating the great guy and we broke up. He say it was him and not me. I think it was me and not him. Truth be told there was probably faults on both sides.
But, that said, I am now a blithering idiot again when it comes to men. I've been hurt so many times: 1 divorce, 1 death due to health and he would take care of himself and now the 1 break up that just devastated me.
I will go toe to toe with most men in a fist fight. I'm just not that scared of much. I've been told I have brass balls the size of coconuts. But, since the breakup I can't talk to a man that I have any interest in w/o doing or saying something stupid. I can't even utter the words: "would you like to go out for a drink sometime?" And, I know there is at least interest enough for that to happen.
I know I'm babbling but, I for one am not blaming these guys. It's all me and my terror of getting hurt again.
2007-01-08 20:45:22 · answer #4 · answered by Debra J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you know that 60% of statistics are incorrect or misleading? Do you have a source? In america? What age bracket? Im not surprised anyway. I'm 25 and some of the choices people make amazes me and it comes as no surprise if that statistic is correct. It seems our culture promotes egocentrism so much that everyone think the world revolves around them and is about them.
2007-01-08 19:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, though I think your 60% is a bit low. =>
2007-01-08 19:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by Michael R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pffft, I am sooo totally in the other 40%!!!
2007-01-08 21:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hehehe that's funny. 60%? pitifulllllllll but i mught be one of them lol no i don't think so
2007-01-08 19:36:38 · answer #8 · answered by ReRe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are motivated by fear
2007-01-08 20:19:07 · answer #9 · answered by rusted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋