I have been married for 13 years to my second husband, but for the last 5 years our marriage has had problems. For the past 7 year we have had no sex life, we communicate through emails and we don't sleep or live together most of the time and i pay for everything. The reason why my marriage is bad is because he wants me to disown my kids and give him all of the attention or be like him and read or watch tv all day. We don't share anything in common including our age. Im in my late 40's and he is in his 60's. Also he verbally abuses me and always says that im cheating on him which is Not true. He doesn't want a divorce because he is comfortable with our situation and also because this would be his third divorce. I'm not sure of what I should do im lonely, unhappy and confused. Should i divorce him, date other people while im still married or what?
2007-01-08 11:28:19 · 9 answers · asked by cantceeme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have an idea how your feeling. I have been married going on 13 years now and have had my share of boredom w/ the situation. Me and my husband also dont have much in common, but he is a good man and husband so im still here. I cant say im against cheating because I have done it, and as weird as it may sound it might help to have a lil excitement in your life. But on the other hand, from what you have said, it sounds like it goes past that, first of all, your kids are ALWAYS first, no matter what. If this man does not respect you enought to understand that, then maybe you are better off leaving. And the abuse aspect sounds bad as well. Maybe you should consider talking to someone, like a therapist. I did it, and it really helped. I wish you the best of luck, and hold your head up, and never let anyone take your pride and self respect away. If you want to talk, my email is beauty99703@yahoo.com
2007-01-08 11:37:49 · answer #1 · answered by beauty99703 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out as soon as you can. You don't have to stay in a marriage like that. Life is too short to live like you do. Do not stay married and then be sorry. I stayed married for 25 years before I got divorced and I wish many times that I could have gotten out sooner. I was miserable all those years and I now regret it.Maybe
you can find yourself someone else who will treat you better.
2007-01-08 11:49:54 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should be thinking of your children and
what would be best for them. You have been seperated
for quite some time and the seperation process is to try
to mend a marriage not prolong it if nothing is working
out during the seperation. It looks as if nothing is working
out while you are seperated. What type of man would
want a mother abandon her children. There are a lot of
negatives pertaining to your mate and if you don't want
your life to be negative with your children and with your-
self then you need to start thinking should I stay or should
I go on with life with my children. Stand up and be a
woman and do what's going to be better for your children.
2007-01-08 15:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there
ok lets see you have not had sex for 7 years how can you go with out ? Its sounds to me he abuses you he does not like your kids, leave him and have some fun .Start again you sound like a nice person go out meet new people and live your life. you only live once so make the most of it. This guy sounds no good get rid of him meet some one that wants to be with you and make you happy .Good luck i hope things work out 4 u !
2007-01-08 11:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by Daniel M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN. Again I say RUN as fast as you can. Don't marry him again. Don't even give him the time of day. Take your stuff and RUN! I would also suggest going to your doctor and getting every STD test available. If he lied to you about being married, who knows what else he lied to you about. I would suggest asking another lawyer about that because that sounds wrong. If your not legally married than you shouldn't have to get an annulment.
2016-05-23 15:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by Marlyss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel really sorry for you ..but i would file for the divorce since you dont live together anyways...its just not right a women in her prime not having sex or being loved..dump the old dude find a yourself some friends and have some fun
2007-01-08 11:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to me sweetie
2007-01-08 11:36:53 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out
2007-01-08 11:33:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
email me. i'll let you know what to do!
2007-01-08 11:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by JACK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋