Does buying a home turn you into a boring adult?

Question

My fiance' has a hard time getting her single friends to do anything anymore. They bought houses about the same time as she got her upscale condo. The problem is that they just never want to go out anymore, and have become boring young adults way before their time! Sure we're home owners, but we still go out every weekend to parties, to clubs/bars to catch live music, etc....her grilfriends are content to scrapbook etc...She's ended up enlarging her circle of friends to include more fun people, and interestingly enough, most are not homeowners, or aspire to be ones. For her it's been a big change from her old friends who are uptight worrying about home decor issues, trends, material things, etc.
Have you noticed this change in people???? Is this why people in the downtown area of cities (non "traditional house" owners) are much more fun and liberated than their suburban cousins???

Answer 1

Good question, LanceMill. I have been a renter and a home-owner, and what I am about to share with you is what I experience first-hand.

1. Boring people will be boring, whether they are home-owners or renters.

2. People more interested in things (home decor issues, trends, material things)
than in people are both home-owners and renters.

3. People who are interested in people will make their homes warm and inviting,
interesting and exciting for their friends. They will want to share their homes
with friends. They will be friendly toward their neighbors--and helpful when
needed. This goes for home-owners as much as for renters.

4. Boring people will get into a rut and stay comfortably rutted, and will not venture
out into the wonderful world of P E O P L E.

5. People who are curious about life, who are willing to explore new things, new
ideas, always seem to attract interesting people around themselves, and
they can be either renters or home-owners. What matters is attitude toward
life. Depressing, unhappy people spoil even the most lavish mansion with their
'vibes'. Happy people make even a small apartment inviting. People go where
they feel welcome.

Some old friends do not change and grow. Since you sound like an interesting person, surely you must have a curiosity and zeal for life and for the great adventure that life is. Interesting people grow. But others get stuck in a rut they find comfortable and don't much change. Therefore, it is not unusual for friends to grow apart where their
interests change.

Now, as to 'downtown people' and their 'suburban cousins': my own experience is that there are plenty of interesting and plenty of boring people downtown and in the suburbs. It is also my experience that people of similar interests will find each other wherever they live.

I hope this helps you. Sadly, sometimes friends do grow apart simply because their interests are not the same, anymore. But the world is full of wonderful future-friends who only need to be discovered.

Answer 2

No, it turns you into a responsible and well-respected individual, And in that, some people may see responsible as boring, so they change their lives and become "proper"... It depends on the person but buying a house has barely anything to do becoming boring... hell I throw parties every month and I have a 2 story house with kids.

Answer 3

No, but when you buy a home, it owns you. There is always something to fix, I personally love owning my home, have a pool and a jacuzzi, absolutely gorgeous back yard. I have had lots of people say they could live in my backyard..LOL We still go out to eat, we are pretty social, but the priorities get rearranged when you become a homeowner, for sure. Suburbia is a lifestyle, more laid back, more neighborhood oriented. No, it is not boring, it is just not what you are doing.

Answer 4

Maybe your friends found that going out to clubs, parties, and bars gets awfully boring after a while.. I doubt that the people who your girlfriend used to go clubbing with spend the whole weekend scrap booking. They have probably found new friends with other interests.

Answer 5

It is not the act of buying a home that makes someone a "boring young adult". in fact, its the act of becoming "boring young adults" that prompts people to buy a home rather than waste money on the scam called renting.

for cryin out frickin loud. i know of people who get in more money a month renting out a house, then they are paying on the mortguage for that house.

Answer 6

Dang, this is thought provoking. I have been a homeowner for about seven years and I do believe I have become more 'domesticated', maybe even boring, since then. I'm interested to see others' responses.

Answer 7

Interesting rationalization and generalization. Maybe you and your fiance are the boring ones. Sometimes the same old club/bar/party scene just doesn't cut it. You might think they are home scrapbooking, but the truth is you just aren't invited.

Answer 8

Buying a house turns you into a "responsible" adult.

Answer 9

Maybe they're too broke to go out, but don't want to admit it. Many people buy more house than they can really afford.

Answer 10

no, that's just what happens when single friends feel the separation between their married friends. when i got married, a lot of my single friends became a rarity in my life. i feel bad for your soon-to-be, but thats just part of growing up and life changing.