I AM HAVNG A PROBLEM with MY SOON TO BE WIFE. SHE LEAVES AT 8PM AND COMES HOME AT 1 AM. WHAT IS A GOOD TIME...

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WHAT IS A GOOD TIME TO LEAVE AND COME BACK. this was asked by alteeeez a few days ago. i am the girlfriend he's talking about, and this is my reply to his question. what is everyone's opinion on my thoughts about this?
for ANYONE AND EVERYONE'S INFORMATION, I AM NOT NOR HAVE I EVER OUT OF FOUR YEARS AND FIVE MONTHS CHEATED N THIS MAN. I LOVE HIM WAY TO MUCH AND WE HAVE COME TO FAR IN OUR RELATIONSHIP TO END IT OVER A PIECE OF D**K. MY WEDDING IN APRIL TO HIM IS A BLESSING FROM GOD, AND I'M LOOKING FORWARD TO IT! I LEFT HOME TWICE AT ABOUT 9:45 P.M. BOTH TIMES, AND I CAME HOME AT 2, AND AT1. I LEFT LATER SO I CAME BACK LATER. HE KNEW THE REASNS FOR ME LEAVING LATE. GIRLS KNOW THAT GIRLS GET TOGETHER AT NIGHT AND TALK, GOSSIP ABOUT FRIENDS AND MEN, AND JUST BASICALLY CHILL. OUT OF THE YEAR AND A HALF WE'VE BEEN LIVING HERE, I'VE ONLY GONE OUT WITH FRIENDS 4 TIMES. THATS NT INCLUDING MALL TRIPS AND STUFF. IF HE THINKS I'M CHEATING, HE NEEDS TO THINK OF A REASON WHY I WOULD CHEAT!

LOVING ALTON IS ALL THAT I TRIED TO DO IN THE BEGINNING, AND ALL THAT I FOCUS ON DOING NOW. YES, I AM HUMAN, AND YES, I HAVE FUND GIRLFRIENDS THAT I LIKE TO HANG OUT WITH. AM I SO WRONG FOR THAT? ITS NOT LIKE I LEAVE THE HOUSE AT 9 AND COME HOME THE NEXT DAY AT 9. I WOULD NEVER DISRESPECT MY HOUSE OR MY RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM. NO I'M NOT A CLUBBER, BUT SOMETIMES I NEED A BREAK FROM FAMILY, WORK, AND JUST MY EVERYDAY LIVING. ITS NORMAL FOR ME TO FEEL LIKE THAT. I BUST MY A** TRYING TO ACCOMPLISH THINGS. INSTEAD OF REWARDING MYSELF WITH SOME ALONE TIME, I GO HANG UT WITH MY GIRLS. SOMEONE SHOW ME THE PROBLEM IN THAT...

Answer 1

If you two can't compromise and work this minor issue out, any marriage is doomed when the big issues come along.

You are right, there is nothing wrong with going out with the girls. He is right, he should be worried when he doesn't know where you are and you haven't communicated enough.

Kewl. Everyone is right. Kiss, make up, and start talking already.

Answer 2

To the girlfriend you said you never cheated on him. Then you say to end it over a piece of d i c k . That sounds like you cheated. Whatever the case is if your man don't like the idea of you leaving the house at night. Don't go. And to your man, if you don't like "A" women of yours leaving the house late and you don't want a women like that then why marry her. Dating is to see if your a match. When dating we need to ask ourselves can we live with this person for the next 30yrs or more. After your married you can't return it. Its like buying a dress that has a tag and it says buy as is, you can't return it. So you need to know can you live with this women who doe's this. After your married she will do again and again. And whats going to happen your not going to trust her. And can you afford to hirer a P.I (private investor)because your going to need it. She may not do this all the time, believe me she will.Am a women in most women don't go out at that time to "just talk" they or she's up to no good. or they could be on speed.(drugs). Your girl story don't sound right.Both of you need to read ten stupid things couples do to mess up their relationships by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger and she (the girlfriend) need to read the proper care and feeding of husbands. There both good books. Easy to read. Right to the point. Sorry to be so sight forward. Your relationship needs help. Before you married.

Answer 3

I think the "What is a good time to leave and come back" question is subjective. There is no "right" answer. What you both agree on might not be good for me or someone else.

If he has a problem with your going out, then just why not compromise? Does it really cramp your style to come home a little earlier, if it bothers him? Are you afraid the demands won't end there?? You have to answer these questions for yourself. YOU are the only one who know him and his personality.


Hope it works out.

Answer 4

It's time to get past who is right and who is wrong and realize that there are some serious red flags to this relationship that need to be resolved before committing to marriage. If you both want to save the relationship, go together to therapy. If you both can not find your way to therapy together to work this issue out together, then how in the heck do you expect to work out a life together?

Answer 5

You are living your life like you are single and all that crap you was sayen is bullshit I am gonna say you are a cheater.If you want that single life then go get it. Cause hun you can't have your cake and eat it also. You sound like a spoiled brat go on run back home to mommy and daddy. Let a good woman treat your man right he deserves better than you. I pulled this line of **** on my dad when I was in high school. GROW UP

Answer 6

I babysit my cousin's little girl two days a week. I love babybsitting her she's too cute, but I come home anywhere between 12:30-5am. Just depends on when she gets off work and if she doesn't go out. Its all her. I remember one night I came home at 3am, and my husband was up when I got home, asked me why I was home so late and told him that we were talkin out side and just needed each other. .I wouldn't cheat on my man as well. We trust each other a 100%. There are two thing I always remember bein on the the internet the frist is this ITS THE INTERNET and two there always BULLSHIT on the internet. If you and your man trust each other don't worry about what these people say.

Answer 7

He didn't give all the facts when he asked the question the first time.
You have every right to be able to go out and spend time with your friends male or female. He doesn't own you and if he's that insecure, maybe you should re-think the marriage idea.

It makes me mad because he made it sound like you were doing this every goddamned day and night. I'd kick his butt for letting most of us here think that's what you were actually doing.

That bastard doesn't deserve a nice lady like yourself.

Answer 8

Sounds like you two should communicate together rather than through this forum. Without strong communication skills, your marriage will be a long and tedious affair (no pun intended, really). He has an issue with trust - that much is clear. Get down to the bottom of his insecurities. Stay open with him to keep his paranoid mind from going off the deep end.

Answer 9

properly this is going to sound terrible yet i think of she's cheating on you! i will see a as quickly as and a at the same time as going over to a chum abode leaving at 8 coming abode at a million could be widespread yet while this is going on each and all the time somethings no longer top. I quite have been with my boyfriend for terribly virtually 7 years and we are questioning approximately marriage alot at present or maybe over the years i do no longer see him permitting that to circulate on greater then each now and then. in many cases all of us celebration and us ladies drink our wine int he kitchen or sitting room and the adult males watch the sport interior the front room. yet you knwo us ladies do have set ladies night that start up top as quickly as we get outta artwork we start up off the night with dinner at our fav resturant then we circulate abode get waiting and hit the golf equipment (definite we are nonetheless youthful as properly) yet all of out adult males have set cases for us to return abode and thats in many cases a million-a hundred forty five the main recent! yet us ladies additionally enable a boys night with the comparable timeframe! so i think of you ought to talk over with ur female and choose whats happening enable he rknow its bothering you and attempt to do what we do! sturdy good fortune!

Answer 10

You should definately make sure he understands the importance of spending time with your girlfriends!! It isn't healthy to not go out or get together with friends. He should understand, but you have to admit....sometimes it's nice when a guy worries-it means he really loves you and cares about you. Good luck and best wishes to the 2 of you!