Problems with my manager?

Question

I started a new job 5 months ago and have a manager that is one of those micromanagers. She watches everything I do, she follows me around the office, she peeks over the cube into mine, she reads things off my desk (personal and business), she asks "what are you doing" every other minute... Naturally, she got a promotion and it's become even worse. Plus, she gives me all her work to do while she does nothing and sleeps at her desk! I haven't caught her yet but others have.

I've talked to her manager about her twice already and he's spoken to her but I haven't seen any changes. He also told me, in so many words, that I need to figure out how to get along with her.

Today she belittled me in a meeting and blamed errors on me when I wasn't involved in the creation of the document, she was. I've had it.

My question...do I go to her manager again and suggest having me report to someone else? Others have witnessed her behavior. Don't know what to do anymore.

I've tried calling in sick so that she'd have to do the work but it's just left for me until I get back. I've come back to stacks of work while she walks around the office doing nothing.

I've listed all of the things I do on my quarterly review and no one seems to get it that the majority of the work I now do is supposed to be hers not mine. And yet I'm not compensated for it.

I've talked to her directly and told her that I'm an adult and don't need to be treated like a child. She says I get all of my work done and am extremely organized, yet she still does it. VERY irritating.

Answer 1

Be upfront with her. Everytime she puts you down dont just take it talk right back to her in front of everyone like she did to you. Say "that's not what happened, you were in charge of that project" If she micromanages, say things like "Do you want to just do it." She will have to back off or she will start to look bad in front of her bosses.
Trust me it works -- I do it and usually, they shut up right away and frequently apoligize - just make sure that the rest of the time you are a good employee and friendly to everyone.
For example once my boss totally micromanaged my husband and told him to "Don't ask, just do". My husband said in a very loud voice "I'm not a ******* robot". The lady never treated him the same way again and apologized to him later. My husband is an awsome employee and very nice to everyone 99% of the time, but never lets himself be kicked around.

Also, use your brain. Find a way to catch her sleeping. Use a tape recorder when she is condescending to you. Never delete her emails. Find a way to make yourself look invaluable to the company while at the same time making her look dispensable

Answer 2

The best defense against someone like that is a good offense, make her work and let her have enough rope to hang herself.

You do this by leaving sick on a really busy day, forcing her to do more work than she is used to. When she messes up, go over her head and report it or call her out in a meeting. Humble her a little.

Tell her its unprofessional to follow you around. You are not a child and don't need your hand held. Also tell her that you cannot perform well because she is making you uncomfortable and it will affect you performance.

Answer 3

I am a feminine supervisor and feel myself to be particularly bendy and open to new recommendations whether or not because the older male managers have a tendency to be caught of their methods..... You are not able to feasible have a quandary with "feminine managers" as each lady (and guy) are very unique. I feel you have got to understand that that is YOUR quandary, the quandary isn;t feminine managers frequently. Why do not you act like a mature grownup and request a assembly together with your feminine manger and categorical your issues related to her loss of flexibility. PS I am 22 and I manipulate a tremendous toy retailer with everybody from sixteen 12 months historic children of their 1st jobs to older guys almost retirement..... I NEED to be bendy and I feel I gain this as good as any guy would. PPS What could you do in case your MALE supervisor was once rigid??? Do precisely the identical together with your feminine supervisor. PPPS Leaving your task for the reason that you do not like the chief may be very foolish and just a little bit unhappy at 30.... grown up a little bit.

Answer 4

I know it can be tough, but you should confront your manager about your relationship. If you can't fix it, you may have to look for other work. Her manager may be unresponsive b/c he/she wants you to quit and make your manager appear that she can not manage. Political games, you know?

It was completely unprofessional of her to blame you for something in front of everyone, even if it was your fault. A good manager will always take the blame or promise to "look into" errors.

If she is reading stuff on your desk, maybe you could have some fun with that. Create a fake document that comes from her husband proclaiming his love for you, haha.

Answer 5

Unfortunately, it sounds like you don't have any other options at your current job. If you've already gone to her supervisor twice and gotten no results, talking to him a third time won't be beneficial.

Answer 6

OK I have and Ideas but you have to take them step by step.One can you trust your eye witness?If you can then wright out a paper explain your ways at work.Then take your witness to the union.If you don't have a union then I would try and get a lawyer.Sounds to me that she or he is trying to get rid of you.All gust because you have complained.

Answer 7

You and your co-workers should all get together as a group and have a discussion with the higher ups.