Well here is the short of it. My wife, has told me that she does not love me anymore and that she has been lying to me and herself for a long time that she does not love me to keep our relationship going. She does not want to be with me anymore and we have been living sperate lives in the same house since July and there is rumor that she is screwing some other guy or at least thay are always talking and/or meeting up. We have gone through the marriage therapy thing and she is unwilling to owrk on anything where as I want the marriage to work. Well the question is I have recently been pursued by an attractive newly divorced woman who wants to go out with me in the worst way. I love my wife, but have been rejected by her for so long that it would feel good to at least be wanted again. So should I go out with the other woman?
2007-01-08 10:50:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really just want to to feel wanted again and just feel like a human being instead of a piece of trash that my wife has been treating me like, the other woman I think wants more than just companionship. She seems very ready for a sexualy relationship, and I really do not think I am ready for all of that
2007-01-08 11:12:13 · update #1
A very wise man once told me that the only thing good reheated is stuffed cabbage. You cannot re-ignite your marriage. Get over it. You love what you thought you had, and what you thought she was, and they are not the same as who she really is.... it's gone. Go ahead and get out of it.... she has betrayed your marriage. Should you go out with the new lady????? Absolutely, sweetie. Let her know you are going thru a divorce, and you aren't quite sure where your head is, but if she is willing to spend time with you under those circumstances, hey, sure!!! Nothing heals a broken heart better than the genuine affection of someone else, sweetie.....She did you a favor by leaving, you just don't know it yet.
2007-01-08 11:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you, I would wait till the divorce is final. My wife left me about 3 months ago for another man and I just can't live with myself knowing this. If you truly love your wife, you wouldn't do anything with this other woman till the divorce is final. I wish to be in the arms of another woman, but I won't till everything is final. If you would like to have any kind of relationship with this person, then you would wait till you can give her 100% of your time and soul. Sorry to hear about this.
2007-01-08 18:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by beachdog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce the wife that says she does not love you anymore, and go out with this new chick. When everything has gone Thur the proper channels. Or Else wife no 1 gets ever thing
2007-01-08 18:56:37 · answer #3 · answered by gemini19572001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think definately get your divorce first! Don't play the cheating game. Talk to the new lady and let her know you are interested and if she really likes you, she will wait. Leave your wife, she's not worth your time and pain. You have a better life out there than what you are living. Go for it!
2007-01-08 18:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by kelly l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that your still so much in love with you wife and she does not return love to you.
She states that she does not love you....Are you paying all the bills in the house as she goes off and does whatever?
You stated that there is a woman who has caught your eye, imagion the love you can feel if it is given and given back..!!!!!
don't let you heat become cement where you wont know what you want from a woman due to the fact that the one in your home is showing you that love is nothing but hurt and pain..
This i know as my ex husband kissed me goodbye in the morning and when he came home that night he told me he was not in love with me anymore and that he hadnt been for awhile. he stated he loved me but that was differant..
If I would not have gone throught with the divorce I would not have found that love that I have now....
Good luck and much love ( and being loved) in your future.
2007-01-08 19:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by uldatnmo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trusting your wife too much so I think you should do everything legally by the book.
Get a good lawyer and don't leave the house or see other women until your lawyer gives you the OK.
It's better to wait and be safe then do something that you'll regret.
2007-01-08 18:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be getting a divorce first, then selling the house you live in, and sending your nasty wife packing. She is using you, and you are allowing her to have her cake and eat it too. DIVORCE HER NOW, then think about dating.
2007-01-08 19:15:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am a female and i know just how you feel because my husband had told me the same things and i have been told he was cheating on me also . i have also heard him talking about outher girls to his friends . he calls this girl all the time and he works with her also so he sees her all the time . i know how you feel about feeling lonely and wanting to be wanted again . i have went out with someone else . and at the time it felt really good . but after i did it i felt bad because i was still married to him . so it does not hurt to talk to someone but i would just devorice then go out . i know how hard it is to get over the one person you thought you would spend the resat of your life with . your in my thoughts and prayers .good luck
2007-01-08 19:08:14 · answer #8 · answered by babyblue28806 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋