i am now totally confused by the information i get from the midwifes has anyone had the pleasure of being told to do something one way then to be told that it is wrong by another midwife?
2007-01-08 10:48:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Midwives are sometimes hard work and can be very connfusing and belittling to potential mothers but others are great, just remember that all advice is free and you as a parent must decide what is good and waht is bad, it is your choice.
2007-01-08 23:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have worked with a total of 7 different midwives during my pregnancies. I think midwives are amazing, but there is a difference between a home birth midwife and one that works in a hospital. I think you will find that doctors will also give you conflicting advice, just like you are experiencing with midwives. It is hard to comment without knowing specifically what your experience is. I would not have a baby without a midwife! In my experience, a midwife values establishing a relationship with you prior to the birthing experience. I am still in close contact with three of my amazing midwives. Also, each one of my appointments with my homebirth midwives lasted 45 minutes compared to the 15 minutes from my parallel care doctor and nurse midwives. My second child was born with a congenital heart defect. The compassion and long term follow-up care I received from my midwives was amazing. Good luck! Sometimes you have to search for the right midwife. Check out www.ecochildsplay.com for great ideas on natural toys.
2007-01-08 11:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by JLecochildsplay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sorry. Our youngest is now 22 but when she was born we had a midwife who was very sweet but really did not know her job that well! She was single, with no children of her own, and we knew more about having children than she did (we have four). But then on the other hand the midwife we had for our first baby was brilliant - rather 'old school' in some ways (this was back in 1974) but also with a lot of experience and common sense. I hope someone else will answer this question and be more helpful! Good luck.
2007-01-08 11:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I have to pipe in here and say that even Physicians and OB's can have varying opinions.
A Midwife that is true to her name, *should* be acting as the bearer of all pregnancy/newborn related information and be supportive of the mother making her own choices. This is unlike an OB who would more likely impose useless tests and one-sided info.
I think it is really unfair to classify the mis-information and confusion you have received as anything related to Midwifery care. Like I said, the same can happen no matter who your pregnancy-care provider is.
With my three children I had a set of 3 Midwives through each pregnancy. I rotated appointments seeing each one at some time or other. All three had some views that were not like the next. However, their overall goal was to provide me with choices and encourage me to make the choice that suited me best. I encourage you to do the same. Although, if the information you are gathering is about something life-threatening related to your pregnancy, then I suggest you "call them on it". Tell each one what the other said and draw your own conclusion. If you're still not sastified, then find another caregiver.
2007-01-08 11:20:28 · answer #4 · answered by Gr8fulmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've had booking in apporintments with 2 different midwives, both at 10 weeks, and both times they have not tried to hear the heartbeat. Depends on the midwife though. It's mostly paperwork, also a blood test, urine sample and blood pressure.
2016-05-23 15:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with getting a mid-wife is that it's really really hard to find a good one. You have some ladies who took a couple holistic classes and now all of a sudden they think they can tell you what's best for your baby. However there are many mid-wives out there who actually have PHD's or at the very least an RN degree. Beyond that every MID WIFE should be certified.
The only reason to get a mid-wife... in my opinion... is if you do not have a partner that will be able to attend to you in the birthing room. If your husband or best girl friend is all for taking birthing classes with you and they want to be there every step of the way then GREAT you don't need a Mid Wife. But if you find yourself without a birthing partner, a Mid Wife would be a great option.
Of course if you are planning on having the baby in your home, or have plans other then a hospital, a Certified Mid-Wife is your only option. In that case you have to make sure that they are HIGHLY qualified in case there are any abnormal signs during delivery. You want to make sure that they know the signs of something going wrong, in which case you would need to go to a hospital.
Best of Luck.
:o)
2007-01-08 11:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by I Ain't Your Momma 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my sister did have a midwife along with her doc for her 4th child, and when she was due, he doc wanted to induce her b/c she was almost a week overdue. the midwife said no, just wait, and she did. 4 days later she had a beautiful llittle boy.
sometimes doctors, and midwifes will dissagree with each other, but that is beacuse each one has different experience. they could both be right, or neither one could be right.
listen to the one that you feel better with, in the end, You are still the mother.
2007-01-08 11:14:56 · answer #7 · answered by white_goth_11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, all the time... not to mention the health visitors following the birth - and by the way, they themselves had no children of their own either. Hm... interesting. They are full of theoretical stuff, no practical experience - the health visitors, that is. Whereas for the midwives, some are old school, some new, so the info varies.
2007-01-09 01:31:00 · answer #8 · answered by ribena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those who have been midwives for a lond time have a veryold fashioned view of pregnancy, whereas the up and coming midwives are taught new methods, so the 2 conflict each other. However,I would say that midwives are without a doubt useful, and full of support.
2007-01-09 07:30:10 · answer #9 · answered by Teresa M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!
My midwives and consultants ddint have a clue about lots of things!
Thankfully after a lot of demanding i got a different consultant just in time and everything turned out fine.
If you feel they are wrong dont be afraid to push for a second opion or even a third, remember it is your baby and as a mother you have the right to demand this
2007-01-08 18:22:04 · answer #10 · answered by Scarlet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋