Girls only plz....god im only 13....?

Question

Okay....welll I have had my period since 5th grade...(8th now) and have used pads the whole time...they are getting annoying b-cuz my mom uses tampons and i always feel like its leaking through my pants...(which has accually happened b4) and I hate it. So I wish I could switch over to tampons...its really hard I just cant do it and I get really frustrated and cry and its horrible...and once i got it in and couldnt get it out and paniced and almost had to go to the hospital...any thoughts?

I have talked to my mom...and, as embarassing as it is, she accually put the 1st on in for me!!! I try...so i know what its like...but i panic and then my body thinks it hurts cause its like not supposed to be there....

Answer 1

Why is it so important for you to use tampons?

Trust me when I say although you think you do, you really don't want to use tampons, as well as expensive, inconvenient and harmful to the environment, tampons are also bad for your vaginal health and unhygienic. You have over twenty different menstrual options to choose from, using tampons does not make you mature, as a lot of young women your age seem to think, what would make you mature would be to research tampons and how your body works, you would then realise how harmful tampons are and that there are far better menstrual options available to you such as menstrual cups that are far safer, greener, cheaper, more convenient, less likely to leak, and more hygienic than tampons.

Tampons can hurt for a number of reasons, for example if your hymen is in tact a tampon may break your hymen that can be painful for some people although it is just as likely not to be painful, if you are not used to vaginal penetration or have any problems with the idea of vaginal penetration this can make penetration painful, also bare in mind that tampons are dry wads of material so can rub and irritate your vaginal walls.

Tampons prevent your vagina from cleaning itself, give bacteria the perfect environment to multiply upon, leave fibres within your vagina, dry out mucosa resulting in vaginal splitting, put chemicals into your vagina that affect vaginal pH, put chemicals into your body that can build up affecting general health, chemicals as well as harsh fibres can irritate or cause allergies, expand adding to bloating, expand adding to menstrual cramping. This is why tampons are considered one of the most harmful options available; they are linked to vaginal infections and more serious illnesses such as toxic shock syndrome. These risks are also increased if you are in your pre-teens or teens because you do not have the same antibodies that adults do to deal with infections and TSS, your vulva and vagina are also more prone to irritation from the fibres and chemicals used within commercial tampons.

If you really insist on using tampons then at least make sure you use safer types of tampons such as organic tampons, sponge tampons or cloth tampons, these are safer than commercial tampons like Tampax because they are made from natural materials and do not contain chemicals so lower risk of infections and TSS.

You need to know your vagina and vulva well before inserting anything, whether it be a tampon, sponge, cup, toy or penis, so first of all make sure you know what is what. Wait until the heaviest day of your period then relax on your bed where you can be comfortable, the best way to insert anything is to masturbate first because when aroused your vagina stretches easily, elongates and creates lubrication to make penetration easier, otherwise use KY jelly or home lubrication such as olive oil. Make sure to use the lowest absorbency tampon you can, tampons should be changed at least every 4-6 hours so go up absorbency until you find what works for you and use different absorbencies at different points in your period as it gets heavier or lighter.

It really isn't a big deal if you cannot use tampons, some people never can and no woman ever should, unfortanatly they remain popular because not enough women know about the risks or that there are far better options available to them. For the time being it is far healthier for you to stick with sanitary pads or free-flow methods, when you are older and still feel that you want to use internal options then you should look at safer options such as menstrual cups or softcups.

I'd recommend you look through the pages at http://www.scarleteen.com they have a lot of information on this and other important things about your body.

Answer 2

I remember the first time i put one in, I didn't put it in all the way and it hurt (because it was sticking out halfway...ouch!) And yes, they don't feel like they should be there (like the first thong you put on!) if you do it wrong, if you do it right, you don't feel it. Make sure before you put it in, tug on the string to be sure that it wont come out and you're stuck with a tampon in you. If it's painful, get an allergy test for cotton or whatever is in those things. you could be having a reaction to them. Always avoid scented brands in those circumstances. I prefer the ones with the long plastic applicator. They're waaay easier to use than cardboard ones or the kind without an applicator. Those make me cringe...ick...Well that's all i can think of to try and help. Also, try not to be too scared or you'll tighten right up! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

Sounds like the size your mom uses might be too large or too absorbant for you. You might want to start out with slender regulars from tampax. They are thinner and shorter. If you can feel the tampon it is not inserted correctly (probably not in far enough). Use a panty liner when experimenting with the lighter absorbancy tampons as you might leak through at first.

Answer 4

Definitley switch! Tampons are so much better than pads...

I promise they do not hurt the first time, or any time, when you put them in, although the first time they feel different, but they are not painful.

I reccomend Tampax Pearl--they work great!

When you try to insert one, first take a few deep breaths. Every girl goes through this. It's very normal.

Try putting one leg on a counter, or laying in a curl-up position to insert it the first time. After these weird positions the first time, you will always be able to insert one while sitting.

You have to relax. If you aren't relaxed, it will literally be impossible because your muscles will tense up and it will be very difficult. A few breaths will do the trick, though.

Try holding a mirror to find the correct hole, or setting one up on the floor so you know where you're headed.

Good luck! Remember, every single girl goes through this, so don't worry if it takes a few tries!

Answer 5

You just have to change pads more often to prevent leakage, even if you think that it is too often. Buy Super-absorbant pads and do not buy a cheap brand- they tend to be bad. If still wish to go ahead with tampons - try the smallest size first, and buy ones with applicator - it will help you to insert the tampon, and it also have leaflet with pictures inside the box that shows you how to insert it correctly. Do not push it too deep - you will fill yourself when it touches the wall- If you keep pushing at this point - it will hurt (some people have more shallow vaginas then others)

Answer 6

first of all you need to relax! I am in 11th and have had my period since 5th. I started using tampons in 7th grade. I Love them!!! they are a little uncomfortable when you first starting using them but after a while you will be fine. Dont pull them out until it is full of blood(or 8 hourswhich ever comes first, never leave in longer than 8 hours! you could get TSS) You need to take a deep breath and exhale and then put it in. That will help your muscles relax! Good lucK!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

If you really want to switch into using tampons, the best way would be to ask your mom, well first, you would need to discuss it with her, for the reasons why you feel you need to use them, and second, she is the one using them also, right? So it would be a great idea to get her informed, and chances will be she'll guide you through it and it'll be a piece of cake! Hope that helps!

Answer 8

Tampax pearl is good and comfortable. Something gross to suggest, but works for me. Before you remove the tampon, urinate a little, it makes the cotton a little wetter and heavier and is much easier to pull out. Don't worry, getting urine in there won't cause any kind of infection or hurt you in any way. Just don't leave it in once you've done that.

Answer 9

if your thinking about switching to tampons befor you put one in make sure your in a comfortable position and your totally relaxed or it will hurt like hell...their are ways to put it in to make it more comfortable like standing up putting one foot up on the toilet and just slide it up on in their, or sitting down make sure your legs are spread away from eachother do not point it downwards when trying to put it in cuz that will be extremely uncomfortable for you when it is in. note. the first couple of times you use a tampon your going to feel a little discomfort especially if you have never had intercourse befor so don't worry about it, it might also be a little hard to put one in just practice and youll get it down soon enough. good luck

Answer 10

you gotta relax girl, it's not that bad k, this is a normal factor of life and if you don't want to deal with pads then you gotta get over this k? anyways, there re many different brands out there to try, Playtex, Tampax, kotex, etc. but don't buy Tampax pearl, they open width ways and are harder to pull out if ur smaller, I like Tampax compact, but I might try Playtex. k, but the big thing is to relax,if you tense up it's gonna hurt okay? take a deep breath and don't be afraid!! i did it and if i can anyone can lol