Ok so like im 17 and I have been feeling really sick and i went to the doctors and found out that i am pregnat!!! Now im thinking about not telling my parents and just moving in with the boy that got me pregnat...but then i feel like i really do need to tell them...but its not like i wasn't going to tell them...i was planning to tell them after the baby was born that way they can't do anything about it and im half way off the case...but then there's the whole issue of like living with my boyfriend and what if he can't do anything........Please people i need help now...do you think my plan is good...do you think its horrible...what do i do??
Thanx guys
2007-01-08 10:46:45 · 15 answers · asked by Korri babe 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Umm..according to your last question 30 minutes ago, you were worried about which boy to date...so are you pregnant or not?
2007-01-08 10:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by steffers4979 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go ahead and tell your parents. It's not as if they won't find out right? I know it's scary but you can do it! In fact, just get it over with. They'll be ticked off for a while and then eventually they'll stop being mad and just face the fact that you're pregnant, a baby is on the way and there's nothing more they can do about it. If you're worried they'll make you get an abortion just remember they can't MAKE you do anything. You'll just have to hold your ground. As for the boyfriend, odds are he's not going to be able to support you and the baby. You're all too young and the truth is you're going to need your parent's support. Be brave and go talk to them. Do this for your unborn child. It will be in the baby's best interest to have their help and eventual support. What's the worst they could do? Kick you out? Fine, THEN you can go live with your boyfriend. Best of luck honey. Hang in there, you'll be okay!
2007-01-08 18:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by chicpower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should tell them. They may be able to help you financially and emotionally. It would be nice to be able to ask your mom questions about pregnancy and a newborn baby. It would probably hurt your parents very much if you don't tell them.
If you move in with the guy, you have to make sure he can support you and a baby. Is this someone you want a long-term relationship with?
Is there a guidance counselor or anyone you can talk to? It doesn't say if you're still in high school or not. If you haven't graduated, please stick it out in school or go get your GED. Your future (and your child's) will be much better if you have a high school diploma.
Good luck. Take good care of yourself. Get lots of rest, eat well, and take your vitamins. Don't stress too much. It will all work out.
2007-01-08 19:00:00 · answer #3 · answered by zsmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing your parents and whether they will be supportive or not, I'm just hoping that they will give you the support you need.
ABSOLUTELY tell them!
Parents are there to help.
Your bf could leave at anytime, then where would you be.
Parents have so much experience with life, they might get mad at first, (natural reaction) but eventually most come around and do what's right for you and the baby.
They cant force you to have an abortion if that's what you're scared of.
Is your bf prepared to support all three of you?
Probably not.
Let your parents help you figure this out...good luck and congratulations.
2007-01-08 18:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok honey i just had a baby myself and i was 17 i just turned 18 today and i think that you should tell your parents because the people that you so much need right now is them expecially your mom because i know i needed my mom when i was pregnant and you need to think about if youre finacially stable to have a baby and is the man that youre with going to support you with having a baby because he might change his mind when the baby comes im just telling you because babys are no joke it is really hard and once you have the baby its to late so its best to make a decision now on how are you going to take care of the baby and if so plan on anything because sometimes you might end up raising the baby by youre self congragulations and i m here for you if you need to talk
2007-01-09 20:44:11 · answer #5 · answered by crazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to be straight with your parents. Just moving in with this guy could be a bad idea for you and your baby. Your parents can't make you give up the baby if that's what are afraid of. Now that you are in this situation you have to think of what is going to best for your new babe. Are you graduating from High School soon? Planning on college? Keeping your parents in the picture will give you more options and a healthy support system to get you started. Yes of course it's gonna be a really REALLY tough conversation to have with them. But remember that life moves on and eventually they will accept it. If they don't... then it's time to move on. But first give them a chance to be there for you and their Grandchild.
Best of luck to you and yours!
:o)
2007-01-08 18:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by I Ain't Your Momma 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's a dumb plan, sorry. You need to be upfront with your parents now. They'll be sad and mad and disappointed, but they'll be even more so if you hide it from them. I'm not even sure you should be moving in with your boyfriend at this point. Do you have a financial plan with him? Does he work and have his own place? Are you prepared to work and continue with school? Ask yourself a lot of hard questions like this, and get your parents input. They've lived longer and know way more than you do.
2007-01-08 18:52:37 · answer #7 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was almost 16 the first time I got pregnant and I was scared but I told my mom and she was by my side and supported me and even let me get married. I am now almost 20 with two girls and almost 9 weeks pregnant with my third. you parents cant make you do anything like have an abortion and adopt it out but they will be there when you need them most. Trust me, being pregnant is hard but being a pregnant teen is harder and you will need all the support you can get. Good luck and congrats!
2007-01-08 18:53:20 · answer #8 · answered by kristin h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if u dont tell ur parents they will eventualy realize it. there will be that building underling tention then when the truth is in the open life wont be any easier. i still havent discussed my very soon to be baby with my parents. i no they no. its not a good situation. even if the freak, theyll help.
2007-01-08 18:55:18 · answer #9 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not hide it. That would be a breaking point between you and your parents. Tell them ASAP. If you don't it will only be harder for you, especially one day when your mom see's you have a baby out of nowhere. Time to grow up. My sister tried to hide hers for 5 months, my mom didn't take it too well.
2007-01-08 19:09:55 · answer #10 · answered by nukem_thebomb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋