he's 15 im 14 and he isnt a virgin and i am, he wants me to have sex with him and i know him very very well(since like 1st grade)and he's been my bf since i was 11 and he was 12, i really love him alot and half of me is sayin yes and my other half is sayin dont do it somethin could happen, i really love him and i really wanna but when we tried the first time i punked out(he want angry) and he's not like pressuring me to have sex but he asks me every once in a while. what should i do about this?
2007-01-08 10:43:36 · 27 answers · asked by MELOSA 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
he isnt a virgin cuz we broke up when i was 13 and he had another gf for a while.
2007-01-08 10:44:41 · update #1
im just really scared about getting pregnant or some kinda STD
2007-01-08 10:53:06 · update #2
i ment to say he WASNT angry
not want ready, sorry!!
2007-01-08 10:58:35 · update #3
good for him do it
2007-01-08 11:09:36 · answer #1 · answered by soup king 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would say don't do it, and I'm sure everyone will tell you that. I personally think you are way too young. I was 15 and have regretted it ever since (I'm 30 now). It doesn't matter how well you know him---guys are gonna talk and before you know it, people will be talking! Are you ready for that? Are you ready to possibly raise a baby right now? I would have to say probably not. At the time it might feel right to you, but then you will never know what it would be like to have your first time be with your future husband. Wouldn't you rather not give into the pressure (of everyone else) and be able to say that you succeeded in standing up for yourself? Believe me, I know it's difficult, but it would be so worth it to wait. If you are really in love (which I doubt...but I guess you could be), then he will understand and wait for you. I liked the fact that he's not pressuring you. That says something for him. You won't regret it if you wait....I guarantee it!! Good Luck!!
2007-01-08 18:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by mamamitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl,you are so young.So what is the hurry?This is something you have to remember,you don't do what you don't want to do,or feel like you have to do it because it's what boyfriends and girlfriends do.It is a good thing that he is not pressuring you,so i'd say don't feel obliged to have sex with him until you are really ready.There is a difference between having sex out of lust and having it because you love and care for each other-then,it will have meaning.Face your studies and don't start getting distracted by thinking of sex.He who has stuck by you,if he really loves and cares for you will wait until you are ready.You will know when you're ready,just don,t rush it.You can cuddle,kiss and hug,but don't trust him if he says ,well'if you love me you will have sex with me'it does not necessarily mean that someone you have had sex with loves you or you ,them.When you do decide to have it,it must be something special that you do with someone special.Tell him you are waiting for a special moment and he has to be patient,and when you are ready you will let him know.Thats if you're sure he is the one you want to deflower you.Goodluck.
2007-01-08 19:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by babyface miller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 16 and had sex with my bf when i was almost 16. We love each other so much and were each others firsts. I DON'T think you should have sex with him because he sounds like that is what he is really after and not just you being you. My bf never pressured me, guys are always ready for sex and if he really loves you he will wait until you are ready.
2007-01-08 21:20:27 · answer #4 · answered by luvmyboy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're doubting, then don't do it. The worst thing you can do is have sex, and then regret it later. If you love him, you two should sit down and talk about this. Sex is a HUGE thing, so make sure you're both ready. Use protection and birth control, and be prepared in case of pregnancy or an STD.
2007-01-08 20:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by •LetangFan• 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that you shouldn't have sex before you are married. If the guy loves you, he will wait. You shouldn't have to have sex with him just because. When you have sex, you should be older. There is a possibility that you could get an STD or get pregnant. Use a condom or have him checked for STDs.
2007-01-08 22:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by Blondy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to ask yourself are you ready for this step. If you are then go head and do it. Now about this pregnant thing everybody make it to be something its not. That girl telling you to get a HIV test all that is not important. It is but you not having sex so why would you have HIV. The only thing I can tell you if you are about to do it is be safe and wrap it up. Just do not have unprotected sex. Then tell your mom that you are ready for birth control... Have fun and be safe.
2007-01-08 19:28:31 · answer #7 · answered by Bin C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is fair for him to ask you once in a while, from time to time, especialy since you've known each other for such a long time. That doesn't mean you have to say yes.
You seem to think you're ready, but you've hesitated, so I'd say you should give it time, you're still young and there is really no hurry. If you're truly ready then it's going to happen, and in the meantime just have fun getting to know each other, because there is always more to learn about your partner.
And of course, never forget, condoms, they can save your life!
2007-01-08 18:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by PuFfy BrOwN RaBiT 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you have sex you run the risk of getting pregnant and/or getting an std. it doesn't matter what method of birth control you use and how safe you are. it can and does happen, so it's good that you are thinking about it and that you're concerned.
there's a 99.9999% chance he's not going to be your boyfriend in the future, so before you sleep with him make sure you're deciding on what's best for you and not him because you gotta live with your decisions forever.
2007-01-08 20:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by lodnem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it. I know that you've heard this before but, you could get pregnant, get an STD, anything could go wrong. My advice is to wait until you are a little older, tell him that you're not ready yet, and if he loves you as much as he says he does then he'll wait for you.
2007-01-08 19:03:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait...Wait Wait.... As long as you can, try to wait until marriage I wish I had...I wish I could have given my virginity to my husband, what a special gift. Don't just give it to anyone! You are at a higher risk of pregnancy or STD by having sex, protected or not. Wait. And don't be afraid to talk with your parents, a doctor or any other adult you trust, but try to think who has your best interest at heart? I cant stress "WAIT" enough!
2007-01-09 16:04:35 · answer #11 · answered by Boppysgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋