i'm 15 and pregnant i don't know how to tell my mom?

Question

how do i explain?

Answer 1

just come out and tell her. You can't go on w/o telling the person that WILL LOVE YOU NO MATER WHAT

Answer 2

My heart aches for you!! 35 years ago - I was 15 and pregnant - and I didn't know how to tell my Mom. As it turned out - I never had to tell her - because a girl who had a crush on the boy who got me pregnant - called her up and told her. It was awful. My Mom cried - and said she couldn't believe it.

But then - my Mom - made sure that everything went as well as possible. For me - that was to have the baby and give it up for adoption. Abortion was illegal - the father of the baby was black - and it was 1972 and we lived in the deep south. My Mom was very loving and supportive. I went to an unwed mother's home - and was able to keep up my school work and not fall behind. It was hard to give my child away - but I was15 and had no way of supporting myself - much less a child.

I don't know what kind of a relationship you have with your Mom. I hope that she will be loving and kind when you tell her - but prepare for an initial reaction of shock and anger.

Perhaps it would be best to preface it by apologizing and telling her you know you messed up. You could say (in your own words) : "I want to apologies before I even say it. I'm coming to you for your help and support. I've done something really stupid Mom - I'm pregnant."

Truly - telling your Mom is the least of your worries. What will you do at 15 with a baby to care for? I am forever telling people that nobody should have sex until they are prepared to raise a baby, kill a baby, or give a baby away. I know all too well. Your Mom may be willing to help you raise this child - but it really is not her responsibility. I hope you are able to do the best thing for the child - whatever that is.

I'm sure you're not a bad kid. You made a mistake. Unfortunately - it's a big life altering mistake. I will pray for you. If you want to chat further - please e-mail me.

Answer 3

It depends on your relationship with your mom. Basically there is no other way but to sit down and just say it. The less staged you make it, the less drama or arguing you can expect. And also, you have to do it soon, that's for the baby's sake too. If you are having your baby, you're gonna need your mother, a lot. It doesn't matter if you are actually friends or not, what matters is that you are becoming a mother, period. And also think on all your options before you talk to her. Let her know that you understand that having unprotected sex is a mistake, but a baby is not. By options I mean whether to keep the baby or give him/her in adoption. You can find and get in touch with several agencies that can help you. But consider your choices, your plan it's what's gonna make you feel more confident when you talk to her.

Answer 4

I was 16 when I first got pregnant. My mom didn't trip out too much. She just made sure that I understood that I was going to finish high school. I did and she is so proud of me and her grandbabies. She knew that she couldn't change it so she would just have to live with it. I hope you are in a committed relationship at least. I was and I am still with the father of my two daughters. I am 20 now. Life was definitely different after that. Having babies does change EVERYTHING! Just be aware of that. If you have some more questions just send me a message. I know you might feel alone, but there are plenty of us out here. And forget all these a$$holes that are saying you are a hoe and get an abortion. They don't know you or your entire situation.

Answer 5

OK so you have had alot of answers to this question. You may never read my answer but here goes.

I was 17 when I told my mother a week after her 40th that I was pregnant. It was very difficult and I thought I was going to die doing it. She didn't handle it nearly as bad as I thought she would and I felt so much better. I was no longer hiding this big secret. So many girls these days try to hide thier pregnancies becuase they think it will just go away and resolve itself on it's own. It won't. My daughter is now 12 and if she were to come to me and tell me she was pregnant I would be devastated for many reasons, but it wouldn't make me love her any less. She would still be in my life and I would have a new member of the family I would have to take care of as long as that is what she wanted to do.

In the end the best thing would be to just sit down with her and tell her what you are going through, tell her you're scared and you just need her support. She will be upset because as your mother, someone who loves you more then anything this world, wants better for you. Let her know that if she helps you, you will get through it and be ok.

Good Luck, please please just be sure you tell her so you get the proper care, you eat properly and take care of yourself.

Answer 6

My sister go pregnant when she was 15. My mom already knew and was just waiting for my sister to tell her. My dad was the one that was upset it was a very cold 3 months in the house. But when my nephew came he had my dad wrapped around his little finget so tight. They might be more understanding then you think If not, before you tell them make sure you have a back up place to stay just incase things don't go so well. Also be ready to have the talk about abortion and adoption if they believe in either.

Answer 7

You made a mistake that is going to shape you for the rest of your life.
Simply trust your mom enough just to come out and say "mom, i am sorry i've made a mistake and i want to have the baby"

It will hurt at first but she'll love you no matter what happens.
Also, if the dad doesn't want to be involved get a dna test ( for court purposes) and make him pay child support. Remember your mom and god does not look badly at you because they both love you very much.

Answer 8

Just being honest with your mom (and I know it will be hard for you to tell her) is the best thing to do. The sooner you tell her, the better you will feel. It's better that she knows so you don't have to go through this alone. I'm not sure there is any easy way to explain it--but good luck to you anyway.

Answer 9

Ok honey, first thing you have to do is make sure you are! Did you do a test?? Maybe go see your doctor or speak to a teacher and let them offer you advice!
Once you are sure, just set aside an afternoon when you are both home alone, and just blurt it out! I know its easier said than done, but trust me from experience that mums can surprise you, my mum was my rock, i was not quite as young as you, but not too much older either.
Please do not go through this alone, if you need to speak to anyone, email me at anytime, dont keep this in honey, its not good for you are the baby!
Things will be ok in the end, whatever happen xx

Answer 10

I was 15 when i first found out i was pregnant i talked to my friend first then i went to a pay phone and called my mother and told her over the phone and then stayed away from the house for about a week to let her simmer down GOOD LUCK and have you thought of your 3 choices yet?

Answer 11

Tell her "Mom. I did something irresponsible and it's a pretty huge deal." Blow it as far out of proportion as possible during the build-up. She'll think you're going to jail for murder. Whether you think it's irresponsible or not doesn't matter. Make her think the WORST before coming out & telling her. I know, it's jerky, but if you want to get the least explosive reaction, that'll work. Otherwise, a letter will do just as well.