2007-01-08 10:28:17 · 18 answers · asked by madisonshasha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if he has a girlfriend already then he has either moved on with his life or is doing that to make you feel bad about leaving him. what you need to do is stop calling him, because that is giving him way too much power over you. if you are to communicate with him then let that be through the attorneys. you need to do the same thing and move on with your life. don't let him see that you miss him or even that you are devastated. that is boosting his ego. stop calling him. hang out with friends. get some hobbies and activities that will keep you busy.
2007-01-08 10:34:12 · answer #1 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing last year. My husband finally started listening after a few months. I started to see the softness in his his eyes again and things started to come back in to place.
When he found out the grass was not greener on the other side that changed things also. He was going through a mid-life crisis and patience was key.
If you want him back, it is possible for one person to save the marriage. You have to be prepared to be go through the motions and know that he will continue to do and say horrible things for the time being. He has to be willing to do what it takes to make things work at some point when he comes out of all this. It's hard work but if you have a history and don't want to throw the marriage out, yet. There is hope.
I found some websites to be helpful
www.ojar.com
www.midlifeclub.com
2007-01-08 18:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you want him back??? What ARE you thinking, hon? Marriage is Respect, Admiration, Passion and Trust. He has betrayed your trust, with passion with another lady.... This is Admirable????You Respect this???? No, hon, you don't miss him, you miss what you THOUGHT he was, and what you THOUGHT you had, and they just ain't the same, sweetie. Get used to it, and the faster you can, the better off you will be.... the guy is a cheater --- you want that for the rest of your life??? Read some of these questions ---- horror stories..... Get yourself into some counseling for 2 or three sessions, get your head back on straight, and firstly, be glad you ain't pregnant, and secondly get out there and find a guy worthy of your love.....He won't talk to you? Doesn't that tell you something????
2007-01-08 18:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the book "He's just not that into you" by Greg Bernhardt. It will help. Get a lawyer, beat him to the punch and file for divorce, go to therapy, and move on with your life. If he has a girlfriend after one month, he has clearly moved on. Why would you want him anyway? Jerk! You deserve better. The book is fabulous. Men are usually straightforward. If he isn't calling, buying flowers, and trying to pursue you, he is not that into you. If he says he wants a divorce....he wants a divorce. If he says he can't be monogamist.... he cant! Good luck.
2007-01-08 20:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by Megan R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as hard as this might be but he doesn't miss you. Besides he has a girlfriend now meaning that he probably had one whey you two were together. I know it will take time to heal your heart but it will heal. Since he won't talk to you, after all you can't force him. Move on with your life and file the papers for divorce.
2007-01-08 18:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously if he has aquired girlfriend a girlfriend in less than a month then he has been with this woman for a while. I know you miss him and you want your husband back but if he doesn't want you then try to move on. If you u feel that it is to hard to move on ask GOD to assit you in finding happiness.
2007-01-08 18:34:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him talk to you or to have any kind of relationship with you.
If he has a girlfriend then he's moved on and even though it's hard you'll have to move on too because you don't have a choice.
2007-01-08 18:42:40 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as the new gf i would tell you to move on with your life.
my bf separated from then wife and met me like 4 months later and she obviously wanted him back but I'm sorry for her because this week we'll have 5 years together. if he doesnt want to talk to you is because he doesnt want you to mess up with his mind since he is trying to move on and start a new life with someone else. you do the same! eventually you'll find someone for you.
good luck!
2007-01-08 18:41:59 · answer #8 · answered by chikis 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Read a book called the POWER OF A PRAYING WIFE by Stormie Omartian.
2007-01-08 18:37:06 · answer #9 · answered by foxy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This was me last July--And I did this--I asked him strait up if he wanted a divorce and he said NO--OK then I said fine you need to move home and we need to make it work--there was no middle ground just do it---I called this gal he had been seeing and told her that we were back together (so that he wouldn't feel as tho he could see us both) and she completely backed out of our lives--
2007-01-08 18:41:50 · answer #10 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋