2007-01-08 10:11:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just tell her to pull herself together
2007-01-08 10:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first thing a guy should do is recognize that she is depressed. Then ask her if there was something bothering her . There are times when she may not to talk about it . If that's the case don't press the issue . Let her know that you are there for her if she does need to talk . When she does want to talk . "Listen" to her don't pretend to listen . While it may be tempting do not automatically offer to "FIX" the problem . Men as a rule want to fix things . Wait until she is done talking . She just might want to know your there for her. Taking comfort in your support . By all means do not assume its about me (the guy) . Men have fragile egos and get defensive if we think we are the problem . Women do have lives outside of us . Good luck
2007-01-08 18:32:09 · answer #2 · answered by Peace of Mind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweetie,
I may not be a guy, but as a woman I can assure you that women need to know that they are loved. Hugs are a major plus in comforting a woman. I am a woman with depression and sometimes I get so bad that I really isolate myself in my room. I feel as if I mean nothing to anyone who means something to me. I even go so far as to hate just about everyone in the world ESPECIALLY ME. I take medicine to be able to sleep at night.
Maybe you could get in touch with a 24 hour nurse line like Medformation and ask about depression. They are experts in this area. Good luck and may your coming days and nights be brighter very soon.
2007-01-08 18:20:38 · answer #3 · answered by sheila h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her to talk about it, and tell u what happened to her, be reassuring but never judge mental or lecture her about something that is bothering her. sometimes all it takes is a few reassuring words, from the person she loves, a place where she feels safe that she can discuss it, where she won't get bashed for being upset. just act as if u are her best friend, be someone she can go to when things happen.
2007-01-08 18:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to her-if she is seriously depressed--encourage her to go see a counselor or go to one with her--or see her doctor--sometimes depression is due to a chemical imbalance and is helped with medication....at other times--it can be helped by talking to a counselor--If she knows that you are concerned, that will probably make her feel better too...
Good Luck
2007-01-08 18:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it really depends on why ur wife/gf is depressed. what i always do is tell her that no matter how down and alone she is feeling, that'll b alright. tell her the Gods always there for her and so are you. tell her people are put through things to make them stronger and wiser. and tell her just to pray about it, and you should do the same
2007-01-08 18:18:51 · answer #6 · answered by islandboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal w/it all the time. I give her her space but always remind her calmly and affectionately that I'm here for her and if there's anything I can do for her to let me know. Also, I occationally ask her if she knows who loves her as well as ask her how she got to be so sweet. Calling her Sunshine from time to time seems to help as well.
2007-01-08 18:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by Add Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is depressed its probably her selfesteem. Try to boost her up by charming her. Complement her on her appearance.
2007-01-08 18:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make her feel like the prettiest woman in the world
2007-01-08 18:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out what the problem was and find a way to fix it... always options...
2007-01-08 18:17:55 · answer #10 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋