i had asked a question earlier about my g/f sex drive. How can i help her with that? Just be myself and give her love and affection(unconditonal)etc. I know i can do this and i am going to do it more, but have any of you women lost your drive for awhile and it came back?
2007-01-08 10:07:02 · 13 answers · asked by Brian 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is there anything emotional going on with her? Is she on any new medications, diet pills etc.? If that's the case then it's probably that.
IF that's not it, it could be she's not feeling enough love from you. Do you do the dip test and then move in after feeling she's "ready"? Are you a selfish lover? I know a lot of guys think that they are preparing their partner for a great time, only to get themselves so worked up that they are done before it even begins leaving her to deal with the aftermath.
The best thing you can do is talk with her. Tell her that you'd appreciate her honesty in this matter because it's important to you.
2007-01-08 10:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex drive has a lot to do with how you're feeling and how much stress you are under. If she's really stressed out with her job or family or whatever, that may be the cause of it. If you don't already, help her out around the house. Clean, do dishes, do laundry, cook, etc. That will help take off some of her stress and she'll be more in the mood. If this still doesn't work there may be something physical wrong, and you should encourage her to see a doctor about it. If she takes medication, that may be causing it. You'll just have to talk to her about it. Maybe there is a fantasy she has that you can help her act out. That may get her more in the mood. Mostly communication is going to be your best bet.
2007-01-08 18:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by benjis.girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never lost sex drive, however it can be many reasons why she has lost her sex drive. It could be something medical, mental, or her body is tired. Another option could be she is no loneger interested. Talk to her and find out what the problem is. Maybe she needs to go to the Dr. to see if there's a problem.
2007-01-08 18:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by Who me? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it has happen to me before,with us women if something in our lives is bothering us,it will affect our sex lives.Why this is ,I no exactly sure ,but my guess is we wear our emotions and it shows,....It happen and still happens from time to time,try talking o her about things ,and see where she is at ,if its not something you guys can fix with communication then go seek prof help.Mine does come back ,mine is not so much a life prob as it is just being plum tired.But lucky for me I have a partner who knows me he'll give me a day or two and we WORK IT OUT later!Plus his sex drive is enough for the both of us and he knows this so it makes it easier to say Im tired,because he knows he can go at anytime.lol.Good luck.
2007-01-08 18:17:52 · answer #4 · answered by youngprincez23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Its totally normal for passion to ebb and flow. Is she feeling overwhelmed in other areas of her life? When you can't pay all the bills, have more responsibilities than time, or just not feeling appreciated sex moves WAY DOWN the list of priorities. Ask if there is anything you can help with. Do something nice w/o being asked. Whatever you do DON'T COMPLAIN ABOUT HER LACK OF INTEREST!!! It will only make things worse! Good luck.
2007-01-08 18:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by Angela B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea it's normal, I was at a stage where i didnt feel like having any type of sexual relations, and then a wonderful thing happened it came back. It might take time or you might need to spice up your love life. Good Luck!
2007-01-08 18:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by sexy twist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you turning her on? no offense, but you gotta switch things up, livin up your repertoire. touch her lower back, lightly caress her skin, kiss her neck. do some foreplay before going all the way. i notice that a lot of men don't give foreplay and that's going to hurt you. spend time just focusing on her needs in the bed, maybe just give her oral for a night. the sacrifice will be worth it
2007-01-08 18:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by dmo_87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to see a doctor about her lack of desire.
I am on the other side of the spectrum......I can't get enough of my man. We have a mid-week sleep over and I spend the whole weekend with him every week!!!!!
2007-01-08 18:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by "N"saysable 1iric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they say stess does that to you. maybe try to exercise and maybe laugh a little....watch some comedy drink some wine. or worst case she not into you for what ever reason. good luck!
2007-01-08 18:14:37 · answer #9 · answered by life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress can cause someone to "not be in the mood"
2007-01-08 19:03:00 · answer #10 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋