A co-worker lost her husband today. Her husband was only in his 40s. I need some comforting words to tell her when she comes back.
2007-01-08 10:07:02 · 10 answers · asked by ... 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess what I'm really looking for is what I can write on a Card.
2007-01-08 10:22:13 · update #1
Put some flowers on her desk or work area. When you see her you can say "Hi, so and so." Let her say something back. Then say "we've been thinking about you and have you in our prayers."
2007-01-08 10:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by carobygirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would hand her a card and in it I would let her know that you are there for her if she needs a friend to talk to or a shoulder to cry on and I would let her know what you would be willing to do if she needed you like cook, clean,run errands, do laundry. But I would include it in the card maybe on a sepearte piece of paper and include your phone number in case she does need you in the future. She is in shock right now and some times when that wears off so do the people around you. This would let her know that you are stil there for her now or down the road. That is the hard time after the shock wears off and no one is there for you then. They have forgtten about you but you are left all alone then.
2007-01-08 10:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by Ginny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes there's nothing more that you can say than I'm here if you need to talk, or even if you just need a hug. If she has kids you could also offer to bring some dinner over for them so she doesn't have to cook, or offer to babysit, just so she can have some time where she can be alone and not worry about being strong for them
2007-01-08 10:11:00 · answer #3 · answered by Jess B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know about comforting words, but your actions can speak way louder than words just by being there for her. be that shoulder to lean on and that shoulder to cry on. and just listen when she either has to vent (out of frustration or stress) or just be an ear for when she needs someone to talk to that she can trust. ask her if there is anything that you can do for her and try to do that.
2007-01-08 10:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are very, very sorry. Every so often after about three weeks, take her to lunch every other week or so and listen to her talk. She'll probably need to talk, talk, talk, talk and say the same thing over and over. Be patient.
2007-01-08 10:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her if she needs u, don't ask her to talk about it, or give her big reassuring hugs, as it may only cause her to get emotional and cry. talk to her about it only if she wants to, otherwise don't. if she needs u she will ask for your comfort.
2007-01-08 10:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything, if she wants to talk then be a good listener
2007-01-08 10:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by Daisy Mae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry for your loss. also, offer to help in anything she may need. that's about it. She's going to need a lot of time to heal
2007-01-08 10:09:13 · answer #8 · answered by Ella727 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be there, don't say anything... she doesn't want words, she wants support...
2007-01-08 10:08:52 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell them **** happens
2007-01-08 10:24:53 · answer #10 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋