i have no idea why i ended up like fool, i ve felt so much hate rise up in me, i don't know who should i lash it out to, i hate my life, hate myself, i felt so helpless, i went to college i didn;t finish, i went to university i didn't finish, rightnow i can't find a freaking job. i married a guy who i have had dated for 3 years who'd had promised will never cheat on me cheated on me on our honey moon and got STD. i don't know what to do. i m hopeless.
2007-01-08 09:47:41 · 11 answers · asked by moon dancer 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Where there is life there is always hope. You are not hopeless. You have inner strength you have not yet found, but it is there. You are in charge of your destiny and you can move forward from this place and time. Take charge of your own life. Begin one step at a time to put things back together. Take care of yourself physically. You can get a job by presenting a positive and confident young woman when you apply. Take some of the advice of previous posters about hair, outfit, etc. and allow yourself to feel better about yourself. Go back to school - it is never too late - and think carefully about what you want to do in school.
Here is a piece of writing I have referred to all my life, particularly in times of stress and trouble. I hope it helps you. Best of luck.
2007-01-08 10:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No life is hopeless. You are here for a reason you just have to find that reason. I'm very sorry for what has happened to you, and i wish i could help, but the best i can do is to give you some ideas that might make you a little happier.
1. If you are religious then try to live by your standards and find ansers to your question in what you believe.
2. Meet new people, make new friends. I'm sure that you could make a lot of friends if you tried. And I don't just mean people over the internet, i mean people in your neighborhood, at your church, friends of friends, anyone.
3. Help people with their troubles and you will start to forget your own. You could visit the lonely people at the old people's home, tutor kids in your neighborhood that are struggling, get involved in humanitarian aid, that type of thing.
4. Keep a diary or journal. It's always good to vent and get your thoughts out straight on paper. Pick at least 3 good things that happened in your day and write them down for each entry along with whatever else you feel like talking about. Only go back and read the entries if you feel like you have to, and then stay away from the more saddening ones.
5. If nothing seems to be working then get counciling. My brother was going through a really rough patch and tried to take his own life at least 3 times that we know of, and coucelling completely turned his life around. He is LOTS better off now because of it.
I really hope i've helped you, and please try not to be too down. The shadows in life just prove the sunshine, and i'm sure that somehting good is bound to happen soon. =)
2007-01-08 09:57:43 · answer #2 · answered by Who, Me?? ...I'm Lost... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is life. There are moments when you get success and failures. Hope is only thing which keeps us alive. I agree that you are in difficult situation at present but have confidence in your self. There is always end of bad days. Have positive attitude. Start imagining that you are going to succeed what ever work you have taken in hand. STD is not a problem . Contact a good Doctor and this can be cured. Believe that from today it is a new day and start your life fresh enough to complete the assignments assigned by the Almighty God. Have belief in yourself and society. Many will come over to help you if you need them indeed.
2007-01-08 10:01:15 · answer #3 · answered by Pramod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I have been with a man who cheated on me while we were engaged and he got STD. The one he was with then pretended that I called her and harassed her - I did not even knew her phone number - and wrote numerous false complains to the police about me. Of course it turned to nothing, since it was easy to check that no one harassed her.
I could not understand how she could be that shameless.
But I did felt very bad then.
What can you do? Nothing. Just go on and on, and do things one by one.
And do not think about things big, but think and see only small
things: I have to get up, to do this and that... And move on with
these small things, and then you will turn back and see that you have done something. I do not know if I explain it clearly, but that was how I did it. For when I started thinking big, made big plans, I was feverish, impatient, and often cried, and could not finish anything at all.
Maybe others will tell you to act, to do big things, change things at
once - it did not work for me. When I started it slowly, did not think
about whole life, big plans, I moved on.
2007-01-08 09:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some therapy to build up your self-esteem. Then make up your mind that you are going to make a new start. Complete your education and prepare yourself for a career you really want. Get a make-over. Go to a good salon and let them do your hair in a flattering style. Go to a good store like Bloomingdales and ask a salesperson for help in picking out an outfit that looks good on you. They are trained to do that. Then pick your chin off the ground and go for it. You can do it.
You aren't handicapped. You have your sight, your teeth; you can walk and hear. Many people would change places with you in an instant, no questions asked. Think about it.
2007-01-08 09:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, you are NOT alone...some of us fall in love and end up sidetracked. That is ok...just pick yourself up, dust your butt off, pick up where you left off. If these feelings do persist, then get some help. You will be ok. I feel like you sometimes, and I have gotton therapy. My therapist may call me a pain sometimes because I only find darkness and hopelessness, but by the end, he gets through...if only through the hard shell. You have a lot going for you, take advantage of life...it does have so much treasure to offer...it is just up to you to decided to open the door and search for it.
2007-01-08 09:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by momofatsc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah life does seem pretty hopeless doesn't it. Well I am 15 years old. My parents divorced, I am a ex occultist and no one understands me, my parents don't give me enough emotional support and I have problems with girls too. You know what I found through all of this and even today this method sustains me and gives me peace, happiness and I have found what true love is. You can go to any baptist or church of God church and go to any of there services. They will accept you if you go there to learn. Jesus Christ gave me hope and he will help you too, if you want to talk email me at uziell3@yahoo.com. The answers you are in god almight, the one who brings love and truth in those who seek it. Jesus gave me truth to get out of the occult and through my parents divorce, he can help you out. You know why because God loves you and only demands of you what you give to him. Trust in him and he will help you. Your brother in Christ, uziell.
2007-01-08 10:36:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
TO CHANGE A HOPELESS LIFE: Rub in hope thouroughly, for rest of life.
Find something you like. Excell that area of your life. Then go shopping. You are now cured.
2007-01-08 09:50:28 · answer #8 · answered by Ziggy Stardust 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce and go back to school.
2007-01-08 09:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let Jesus into your heart and let him have control of your life.
2007-01-08 09:54:45 · answer #10 · answered by smially 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋