have you ever heard of the book "the notebook girls"? well i bought it and read it, then passed it along to my friend to read with secret hopes of keeping a notebook of our own. After she read it, she had similar ideas. She started a notebook with her 3 "better" friends. Immediately I was hurt pretty badly. She even showed me a page with some pictures on it, but when I wanted to get a closer look she pulled it away fearfully and said "sorry, you cant read it."
that incedent and the whole idea pretty much brought up some sour feelings and pea green envy. I am a pretty jealous person, probably because I'm an only child. this idea has been brewing in my mind to take the notebook. I know it is an awful thing. but I did it. I took the notebook out of pure jealousy.
I like to think of myself as a good christian girl never done anything wrong, basically im a goody goody.
i feel terrible what should I do? and confessing is kind of hard I dont want to ruin our friendship...
2007-01-08 09:42:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You have a choice: lie, and try to pass it off as an accident, or tell the truth, and apologize. If you choose the second option, tell your friends how hurt you were that you were not included. That is really what this is about. If they are good friends, they will understand and offer you apologies of their own.
Do what you can live with in the long run... it is hard to be a teenager. Teenage girls can be crueler than any other social group that I can think of. Best of Luck... hang in there.
2007-01-08 09:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by Mikisew 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never read that book, but you did invade her privacy. You need to control your jealousy also....no means no. If you don't feel like confessing, then try to return the notebook as quickly as you can. Just keep in mind that you may have already lost your friend. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-08 09:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to confess and not just the notebook but also the jealousy and the sick feelings. You may end up with new and trusting friends.
2007-01-08 13:28:15 · answer #3 · answered by charlie at the lake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me once, with different circumstances. I thought we were good friends then she started keeping things from me and also pulling away notes. She even took friend to cape cod then practically denied it and we go to a really small school so how could you miss there attitudes. she would talk then when i came over would stop. and be like heeey, so theyed would all stop talking. but i just politely confronted her. i said um is everything ok between us, it seems like youve been kind of agnoring me i mean if you rather hang out with them its fine i just really liked being frends. come to find out she never knew she was doing it.Just be christ-like and nice not snooty or like whats wrong with you and she might just be your good friend again.
2007-01-08 09:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What friendship would you be ruining? Apparently this person didn't see you as a friend to begin with...confess anyway, to clean your conscience if you have to, but don't expect anything from her except more "you are not my friend" behavior, only this time you may get her hint...
2007-01-08 09:48:07 · answer #5 · answered by beetlejuice49423 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
C'mon. Religion aside, its unimportant.
What you did was wrong. and you need to apologize and understand the world doesn't revolve around you.
Im an only child as well, but big deal.
2007-01-08 09:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by breakingpoint56 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should find a way to return it without her finding out and don't ever do that again. It's wrong on 2 levels - it's stealing AND snooping!!!!!
2007-01-08 09:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋