my bf of 9 mons occationally talks to his ex gf since they brokeup 10 mons ago,he said they were just freinds?

Question

when i was walking out to my car i saw my bf just sitting in his car.i went over to see what was wrong.he had a very intense look on his face and was on his cell.as soon as i opened my mouth to say hi he shot me a angry look and waved his hands at me to keep quiet.after a few mins of him listening + saying ok,yep,no in a very monotone voice to the person on the phone he hung up.without saying a word to me he left his car and walked to his appt.i kep asking who was that and he just ignored me.when we got to his door he would not let me in and got very angry with me and said leave me alone i don't want to talk about it.later i called him + he seemed calmed down but was vague about what happened.it seems "sue" told him to come get his stuff(keys,clothes)that she still had but not to come when she was home,she would leave his stuff in a bag on the steps.why did my bf react to me in a argry way?why after 10 mons does she still have his stuff?as far as i know he never told her he was datting me,maybe she found out and got pissed thinking they would get back together.i worry about this becuase my bf left his last wife for this old gf maybe shes at her old tricks again.what do you guys think?

Answer 1

kick his sorry butt to the curb!

Answer 2

I don't know exactly how old you two are, but obviously you are both adults and there must be some maturity involved. I think that he may have some feelings for his ex still. Judging by his behavior he was not happy with the fact that she wants him to pick up his things.

It's okay if he still has 'some' feelings for his ex. (Not that he expected to get back together with her though) Let me explain something. I was married for 10 years and although I was the one that asked for the divorce, I still loved my husband. There were issues involved that prompted the divorce that I won't get into. And although I am now happily married to another wonderful man, I still have some feelings for my ex. I care about him. I don't want harm to come to him. I hope that he is okay. I think that he is selfish and unkind but I know that he has had a very rough life and never understood how to control certain things.

I don't know the past between your bf and his exs but as long as the feelings he has for his ex is not one of wanting to return to her, then they are okay. It just means he has a kind heart.

What you need to do, is sit down with him and talk to him. You need to find out calmly and kindly if he still loves her. Tell him that you understand that he could still have feelings for her. (It only means that he is human) Tell him that he needs to sort out for himself where he is and what your relationship with him means to him. Never lose your coolness and calmness. He will probably realize that his relationship with the other person is really over and that he now has a kind,wonderful, understanding woman to spend his time with.

Best wishes with everything

Answer 3

sounds like he took you on the rebound, to begin with.
He doesn't sound like he treats you with very much respect. maybe you should take another look at this relationship. does he disrespect you in other ways too.
he very well might be wishing he were back with her.
but i too would not be pleased that he acted this way, and I'm afraid with my temper i would have told him so,( in words you aren't supposed to use on here.)

Answer 4

You need to break up with your boyfriend.. always say even if a guy isn't cheating on you he shouldn't give you any reason to question your relationship...Just from reading this I could tell you can do better,,,

Answer 5

Not a good idea..
He is on the way to cheating..
Put a stop to it or go ahead and break up now...

Answer 6

you need to dump him that means he still like her that happend to my sister and it didnt end up good trust me honey forget about him plzzzzzzzzzzzzz