I am about to have my first baby in March...the father and I broke up at the beginning of the pregnancy...then got back together..then On New Years..broke up and I moved back home...We just cant seem to get it together..were gonna be friends for our baby's sake..but...I am so afraid that I am gonna be single forever...I am just worried that no guy is ever gonna want me because I already have a baby...Just feeling kinda down in the dumps..can anyone help me feel better? I just dont want to be alone for the rest of my life...and I am truly worried that no guy will want me cuz of me already being a mom...I am 19. NO ONE BE RUDE PLEASE...and I know I dont have to have a guy to be happy..but it would be nice..ya know? thanks in advance.
2007-01-08 09:30:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Don't worry about any of it. Yes you are young, but in case you haven't notice so is half the female population that has children now days. I had my first child at fifteen, I am now 26 and have three. I have also had many guys interested in me, and a few relationship from that. I'm sure every one in this situation has. In fact some time you do more harm staying together for the baby, for instance my friend stayed in an abusive relationship with the father of her child be cause she was afraid to be alone and she wanted a family with this guy, buy yet he was beating her in front of her kids. So it's cool that you all decided to remain friends, and not try to force things. I believe God had a husband for me and it won't be long until I meet him. Whether or not you believe in God you should know that you too will find the right man. Don't just settle for anything though, whatever man that comes into your life has to know that you and your child are a package deal. He can't get one without the other. By the way you do know you don't need a man to be happy, so then you should also know that even though it may seem forever, it won't be forever until you find the one. Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-01-08 09:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, don't worry about being all alone forever. I know that it has to seem terribly rough right now, but i promise you, things will get better. You are 19 years old, you have a lot of time ahead of you. And if having a baby will scare guys away, then you dont wanna be with those men anyways...you will want someone who will love you AND your baby. And there are plenty of wonderful men in this world who would not leave a girl just because she has a child. Dont give up...and dont let all of this get to you. Right now, you should be making some big baby preparations!!! Its almost time!!! Im so excited for you...mine will soon be a year old, and it seems like i had her just last week lol. Im glad that you and the father have decided to stay friends for the babys sake though, that will be excellent in the long run. So, anyways, dont even think for a minute that you will be alone forever, right now, think about the baby, and surround yourself with people who love and care about you. I wish all the best of luck to you!!!!!
2007-01-08 09:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the love you will need for a while will be from this baby! Dont trash yourself out just because you want someone, I know many friends that are with men that arent the childs father, but right now, focus on your family, get yourself prepared for the happiest little thing that will ever happen to you!
The man that is going to be right for you will fall in love with you and your child, and love you for the way you mother your child, as well as being a partner for him.... and if that isnt the way a guy is being, You have to dump him to the curb!
Always remember that child has you, relys on you! all his or her self being is a reflection of the way you behave, and represent yourself. Keep that in mind and Enjoy your child, and this time pregnant, and when the time comes the right guy will be there with open arms for ya!
2007-01-08 09:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by Why? ... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will most defiantly find a new boyfriend after time. I suggest you have the baby, get adjusted and then go out to find somebody. You aren't going to be alone forever, I promise. If it makes you feel any better I am 15 and pregnant, I am still with my boyfriend but we really cant stand each other because after being together for 2 years we have grown way apart. Good luck.
2007-01-08 09:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i was 18 i got pregnant with my first child and right after i got pregnant the father looked at me and told me that it wasn't his it was his twin brothers, we split up i got wit a guy shortly after that and he was with me threw my pregnancy with that child and a couple years after that we had a child and got married. but just because some guys are creeps. We are now divorced and i have another child and i have recently found a guy that is great he loves my kids and they love him and are really attached to him and i am now only 24 years old you will be fine and there are still good guys out there that will love you and be there for you. And congrats on the new baby .
2007-01-08 09:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by Chrystal H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I noticed the other answers were from ladies (I hope) they don't mind the term. My 2nd wife was 12 years younger with a nine year old daughter. The marriage only lasted 3 years but 3 years after the divorce our daughter lives close to me in stead of her mom (600 miles)
I hope you find a good man, or rather I hope he finds the 2 of you
2007-01-08 09:44:04 · answer #6 · answered by Sid B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thing happen to me- at the same age-19 (i'm 27 years old now). It sucks i know-- but things get better- you'll have your baby and the last thing on your mind will be boyfriends for a long time. Cheer up =)
2007-01-08 09:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll be fine .It's hard to be alone but it's better then being in a loveless relationship I was a single mom for 16 years I am married again.
2007-01-08 09:40:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 09:06:12 · answer #9 · answered by alyson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to answer your ? you can find a guy even with a kid....i have 5 and yes they all have different dads (i have very poor taste i guess) but im happy...after my fourth one i thought i would never find a guy but i did and he was just fine with thae fact that i ahd 4 and now we have one together and are planning to get married soon and have another... it might be a hard road for awhile and you will meet those guys that are jerks and think that because you ahve a kid that you must be easy but dont let them fool you...the good guys are out there i promise, i found one and its great..dont stress and remember your baby comes first and if you find one and he dont like kids....RUN LIKE HELL...hes not the one, trustme
2007-01-08 09:42:11 · answer #10 · answered by cnwhab4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋