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I was married at 17 and have been married for a year and a half. So the question is not whether I should, but why people feel the way they do.

I was told at the time that it would be wiser to wait until I was older. But I'm of the opinion that being young is a BENEFIT to marriage, because instead of growing up, becoming set in our opinions, habits, and daily routines individually, and then trying to mesh our lives together, we are able to grow together, and head in the same direction. To me, that means a chance to solidify a marriage.

Any thoughts?

2007-01-08 09:17:40 · 11 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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I agree with you 100%. I was married at 19 and was told we were too young and that I'd be home and divorced within 2 years especially since my husband was going off to the military. Well that was 21 1/2 years ago and I only go home to visit. Like any marriage, it will take work. GOOD LUCK!

2007-01-08 09:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Young marriage is definitely the less harmless of the two. A pregnancy involves an innocent child who has no say or control in the situation. When a marriage goes bad, there's a divorce and everyone moves on. When a young mother can't handle the responsibility involved in raising a child, the child ends up living with the grandparents or being abandoned to the state. That's not fair. I got married at 20. I don't know if that qualifies as "young." Everyone said it was because I was pregnant (I wasn't), and that it would never last. But we've been happily married for 7 1/2 years now. I certainly never would have considered having kids at that age, though.

2016-05-23 14:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

I think, both points of view have merit. It is true that if you are together since you're very young, you have an *opportunity* to work with each other from the start, and help each other grow in the same direction. The problem is - when you're young, you often don't have enough wisdom to recognize these opportunities, and end up growing apart rather than growing together. Of course, this is not to say that older couples necessarily have the wisdom to make it work, and to get along. It really depends on the individuals involved. Good luck with your marriage.

2007-01-08 09:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I married when I was 20... a lot of people tell me we were so Young .. and marriage life is hard alto of my Friends.. tell me that AIM Young and I have to enjoy life and dating .. and stuff... but I believe in him.. I knew I was with the right person.. I didn't worry about others.. if my family agree with it... I am 21 now we been married for almost a year now.. and its wonderful.. we do have some problems... but we get over it...I think trust between u and and u husband is the must important rules in the marriage life... I belive that life is what u make it..

2007-01-08 09:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by I_belong_to_me 3 · 1 0

I think that it really depends on the 2 people in the marriage. Some people who marry at 30 don't last long.

I was married at 22...and my hubby was 23...I think that it was perfect timing for us!

Good luck to you...best wishes for a happy wonderful marriage!

2007-01-08 09:28:02 · answer #5 · answered by itsjustme 2 · 1 0

i got married at 19 and my wife just turned 18 we have been married 25 years it takes work all my freinds said the same it wont last. proved them wrong

2007-01-08 09:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 1 0

Sounds like you were mature for 17. Alot of teens arent ready for that kind of a commitment. As long as it is working for you congratulations. But marrigae at that age is not for every one.

2007-01-08 09:22:32 · answer #7 · answered by chemky1 3 · 1 0

to each his or her own but you're crazy. U havent even lived and you got married. Your 20's are the greatest years of your youth. Being tied down in your 20's sucks, i got married at 30. You'll regret it, like all my other friends that got married before even turning 20. Hey ya never know...good luck

2007-01-08 09:25:44 · answer #8 · answered by okinaps319 3 · 1 4

im marry when i was 19 and its didnt mean bad

2007-01-08 09:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by babygirl 1 · 0 0

I agree with her, it doesnt matter the age, as long as you know that this is the right person for you. =)

2007-01-08 09:25:06 · answer #10 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0 0

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