I am so depressed. I thought about suicide. I hate my life. My Parents are christian, but they are too overprotective, I dress how they want, Listen to the music they want, i try hard in school, but its never good enough. I try hard with them,that i dont know what i want. I am always crying, and i started to cut, but i stopped. I dont know what to do. I just want to run away. Im not aloud to do anything. I cant wear pants, cut my hair, no makeup, no rock music(even if its christian).And to make it worse my beloved cat just died. I cant go anywere. Im 16, and turning 17 really soon. I hate it, i dont know what to do! if you have any advice, then bring it on. Just please dont make fun of me. The other thing is, is i dont have any friends to talk to. Seriously, i tried to tell them, they got mad at me, and wouldnt talk to me. I dont have any real friends to just talk to, I just want to know someone cares!
2007-01-08 08:49:11 · 6 answers · asked by =] 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am so sorry to hear this. Please don't despair, there is hope. I too look back on my life at your age and was so severly depressed it was awful. There were even times I thought of how I might die. I often questioned God as to why I was born and why my parents hated me so much. My situation was quite different than yours with your parents, however, still very miserable and empty.
Are there groups at your school you can possibly join with others who may have similar interests? Can you do some volunteer work? I always found that at my weakest and saddest times, that helping someone else in need really ultimately helped me too. Is there a Counselor you can talk to? How about writing a letter to your parents about how you are feeling. Even if you don't give it to them, it will help you sort out your thoughts. Maybe they don't even realize the extent of what thier actions are doing to you. I am a parent now and I really understand how sometimes you can get so "caught up" in your own world, you may not realize what is really going on around you.
Sounds like you also need a different circle of friends and ones that will accept you without judgement. This takes time, but trust me, it will happen. Never stop believing in yourself and the power that you have. I still recall writing a sentence to myself when I was 17. I told my self that "I would make it". At the time, I didn't believe it, but I held strong to that. My parents actually died just after my 16th Birthday. They gave me a painful legacy to carry with me but I was determined to overcome it.
I will not spout religion at you, but I will say that God hears you. Even at those moments that I hated God and cursed at him, He never let go of me. You become strong through your hurts and pain. Pray when you can, curse if you have to. Just please don't give up.
2007-01-08 09:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by Singthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem!! You can leave your parents home when you are 18 and think about this. You are only a child for 18 years, and you will be an adult for at least 60 years, so you have your entire life ahead of you to do as you wish. I know it must be hard for you now, but if you hang on you don't have much longer till you are legally able to be on your own and can dress and do as you please. And if it matters I really do care!
2007-01-08 16:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alicia, I care you're so sad. I'm sorry about your cat, dealing with losing a pet is the hardest part of being a pet owner. You really need to talk to your parents and tell them you feel you are mature enough to start to make some decisions for yourself. Start with something small like asking to listen to the music you like. Then if they can allow that, ask if you can choose some of your own clothes. It's going to take time, you'll need to be patient and go slowly. It may be your parents think they are protecting you but you need to remind them in order to grow up you need to make your own decisions, and mistakes. We all make mistakes, it's how we deal with them that counts. Good luck.
2007-01-08 16:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey girl, don't worry!!! Life is very nice, I promise!!! I can be your friend and if you want to you can tell me everything that bothers you.
I think what you should do is tell your parents how you feel about what they are doing. I know it is hard, but communication will always make things better. Remember you have to be respectful on what they believe, but always give your opinion on things.
Please do not kill yourself, you sound a very cool girl, and if you need me, just tell me, right? I hope this made you feel a little better, really. I feel very sad for what you are saying, but I promise it will be better when time passes by.
2007-01-08 18:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by veritouu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey grl .. dnt get sad n depressed .. let things go the way they r goin .. u can talk to me im here .. juss dun worry .. evrythnngs gna b fine ... juss start ur day with a BIGG smile on ur face .... n rest is next ..
take care ..
n keep smiling ..
2007-01-08 17:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by Simranjit S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really know how u feel i am the same situation but i am going through a breakup with my ex boyfriend please try to see a counselor i need to see one
2007-01-08 16:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋