I have been married for 6 years to a great man. but I have this guy friend that I have major crush on. He is nothing like my husband but every time I am around him I can't stop thinking about him. What do I do?
2007-01-08 08:41:00 · 24 answers · asked by KK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keep it to yourself. It will pass over time. Every time you think of the other man..go kiss your hubby...it may spice up your own marriage a bit and make you forget the other man altogether...don't be a fool and ruin a good thing...
2007-01-08 08:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Been there! I have liked this man for almost a year, and it is impossible not to think about him. Even after he totally stood me up and started acting like a D I C K all I can think about is how bad I still want him.
I say, don't do it, leave it at a crush.
I made the mistake of fooling around with my crush a few times, and all it did was hurt me (although I totally enjoyed it in the moment). People get bored with their SO after a while, and crushes can be so exciting, but someone is bound to get hurt. Trust me.
2007-01-08 11:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand that you are already putting your marriage on the rocks. This man's image has been stuck in your mind and I bet is still there when you are with your husband?...
I do not know your intimate details of marriage, but has swapping, sharing, 3some or any other alternative marital activities ever come up in conversation? Do you watch porn together with multiple partners or any comments about multiple partners arise? If no is the answer to any of these questions, a taste of your "orange crush" can only be a secret fantasy if you want to keep your husband.
Warning: fantasies may turn reality if YOU LET THEM or put yourself in a TOO tempting situation. And understand once you cheat, you will never be the same--ever--in his eyes and oh yes, he will find out. They always do...
Good luck.
2007-01-08 08:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by Shane O'Rion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN! It's a trap. Traps exist for the sole purpose of having something or someone caught and then suffer. Act like you know.
Shut that mess down with a quickness... can't you see you're being set up by the Enemy of marriages. You need to recognize that and cut this"guy friendship" crap off right NOW.
How would you feel if your husband was doing that to you?
You know dog-gone well where this will lead as well as what you should do... or rather "not do"... C'mon. Get it together!
2007-01-08 08:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do? Why should you "do" anything? Married people aren't blind, we are simply in committed, monogamous relationships. We see and know attractive, AND unattractive people. You are an adult. Being adult means that we don't act on every impulse. But, perhaps this isn't the type of answer you seek. Are you looking for some justification for acting on this crush you have for the other guy? Have you decided to cheat on your husband with this guy? Or, is it that you ARE cheating, and are looking here for support? I suspect that you wrote to this forum, because it isn't JUST yearning, or a crush.
2007-01-08 09:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You people make me sick .Who the h e l l hasn't thought another man or women is attractive even though you might be married.The point is unless you are in an abusive relationship , you should be honest with yourself and your partner and not jump at every man or woman that might be hot looking or say the right thing at the right time.You either love your partner enough to keep your goddamn wits about you or you f u ck every thing that moves and perpetuate misery.Jesus Christ folks...where is the love.
2007-01-08 09:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU STAY AWAY FROM HIM, OF COURSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reverse the situation--it's a great tactic in marriage. Think about how you would feel, if you were working all day to support the family that you love, and your husband was sitting at home fantasizing about another man?? Makes you feel kinda worthless, doesn't it? (At least, it ought to).
Temptations are natural. I'm married and I have them. But you MUST avoid them, or your undermining your worth as a woman.
Besides, you only like him because you haven't had 6 years of constant contact to discover his faults.
2007-01-08 08:51:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just keep thinking of how you would feel if your husband had a crush on some other woman. Now come on.....this is not smart behavior and could cause large problems. Be done with it sooner rather than later.
2007-01-08 09:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by AmyB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, the grass always does seem greener on the other side. But -- trust me on this one -- you are attracted to the man that you THINK he is, not the one you would have to deal with on a full-time basis if you had to. You get the wit and charm but not the bad things that come along with him. This is what is making him charming and me thinks you should stick with hubby before a disaster happens!
2007-01-08 08:51:13 · answer #9 · answered by jennw33 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You forget about the other guy and concentrate on your marriage,or tell you husband you are NOT wanting to be with him any longer and pack up, move out,give your husband rights to everything and move on with your life,so that your husband can do the same.
2007-01-08 08:50:14 · answer #10 · answered by grbarnaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋