I have been going out and trying to hook up with girls for years now. It has been my escape... my release after a weeks work. The problem is that now I go out and drink and party too much. Even though it is just one night a week usually it still takes a toll. I end up sleeping the rest of the weekend away and I am dragging a$$ on mondays. I meet girls here and there and a few have turned into relationships which are now over. I like the excitement but I think it's time to grow up. There are things I enjoy like exercise and sports but I just feel like it's the end of a part of my life and it's hard to let go. Any other men been through this? I have been the typical frat boy, young professional, "player" for years and I really dont have much to show for it. Maybe the only thing that will slow me down is the hot girl I have forever been chasing (none in particular). I have met women in other ways but they seem to bore me... Is this a normal phase for men?
2007-01-08 08:34:46 · 6 answers · asked by onthedlyoshi 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think it's normal for men and women to feel that way. I'm 28 and female and I recently went through that. I think it's something that happens to a lot of people in their late 20s. I started really hating the bar scene and I actually quit drinking. It's difficult because it feels like there's a hole in my life now and I'm left wondering what the hell am I supposed to do with myself now? I just got out of a 4 year relationship and I don't want to get sucked back into that scene but it's tough. It's lame, but lately I've been concentrating on getting my sh*t together and trying to figure out what I really want in life. I'm learning how to be happy without relying on other people around me for a good time. It's a process but I'm totally ready for it.
2007-01-08 08:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by Pico 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So many questions - so many obvious answers. Are you dumb or something??
Firstly - "can you move on from this"
Ans: Of course - it's up to you.
You say you are addicted... well all addications rely on the sufferer to commit to change only then will you move on.
Time to grow up? Well of course its best to do that at some stage in your life, although from my observations men like to remain little boys forever.
Is this a normal phase for men? Yes and most remain stuck in this phase for the rest of their lives.
My advice. Instead of asking someone else to solve your problem - take a long hard look at your life and ask yourself what do you want. And then makes plans if only step moves to try to achieve that.
If you enjoy what you are doing and want to party all your life then keep doing what you do now. But remember this very wise saying that has become my mantra if you like: "When you do what you always do, you get what ayou always get".
Got it?
2007-01-08 08:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by margo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to take a women to settle you down. To anchor you from that scene.
Its going to be someone who is either in the same position as you, or someone who has never been a party goer and is just now sampling that scene.
You will meet, see that she is down to earth and not a drunkard easy partier and appreciate that. Keep an eye out shes coming within the month.
2007-01-08 08:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by crymsyneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your ready for a serious relationship. Congratulations, your growing up! Now to find the right girl, Im sorry to say, but it wont be in a club or a bar. You need to think of someone who has the same qualities as you.
2007-01-08 08:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to the wrong types of bars, go to the ones with rainbow signs.
2007-01-08 08:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't drink and hit on women anywhere you go.
2007-01-08 08:43:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋