So depressed and lonely,i dont know what to do?

Question

I cant stop crying,life is so unbearable for me right now,i'm so down and lonely. I'm sick of feeling scared all the time because of this stupid anxiety,my father is not alive anymore and i wish i could tell him i love him one last time,the man i love has deserted me.i cant cope anymore and dont want to be here anymore

Answer 1

I'm sorry you have to go through this. Try to remember that your pain for your ex will be temporary. Suicide is permanent and you can't take it back. A lot of people believe that you can still tell your Father you love him and he will hear you. Whether or not that is true is up to you to believe but no matter what, I promise you will feel better if you tell him and if once isn't enough then tell him as often as you want. Try to find someone you trust and can talk to about what you are feeling, it helps more than I know how to tell you. I wish you the best>

Answer 2

Its understandable that you are feeling like that now. In life there are times when everything seems to come crumbling down - its just the way it is. The only good thing there is that it doesn't last forever. If you can ride through it, allow yourself to be sad and desperate and cry, cry, cry - a day will come (soon) when you feel that you have no wish to cry anymore. A person can be sad only for so long. And then you will feel new life in your veins again, new interest towards life. Soon. Believe me. And your Father knows that you love him. Blessings!

Answer 3

This sounds so pitiful and sad... I really feel for you.
In life there are ALWAYS going to be bad days, awful problems, challenges ahead. What may seem unsurmountable to you could be a petty problem for someone else battling hunger, destitution, life threatening diseases.
The crux of my answer is that find your inner strength to deal with whatever life throws at you. Dont think that others have life easy, no one has it easy. Everyone is going through some problems or the other. Do you want to be the one who could not cope with what you were handed out?
First you have to fix whats broken inside yourself before you start looking for a suitable man. The one that dumped you sounds horrendous and has used you for his own satisfaction (reading from your previous posts).
Dont think you are at fault. In a sense, your outlook on love, men, sex, relationships is flawed, and until you fix that outlook you will keep attracting (and getting attracted to) the users, losers, abusers. Believe me they can really zero in on vulnerable, timid types like yourself.
Please do confide in someone asap. A friend you trust, a family member other than your dad who you esteemed as much as you do him, or even a person on yahoo who you think can give some answers. Reach out for help and you will find it.

Answer 4

I'm sorry to hear about your father. I would sugest trying to reach out for help. Just ask someone you love or trust or go to a therapist. You possibly could be depressed, and may be perscribed anti-depressants in addition to therapy. (btw anti-depressants aren't horrible like some people say they are, don't listen to the bad stereotypes!) These steps could potentially make you feel better. You're taking a big step by trying to do something about this. Just remember that you're not alone. Good luck!

Answer 5

ok, first things first, stop and breathe. you're alive now, so focus on that. you'll die someday, and you'll have all eternity after that to be dead, so let that come later, when it's time.

the thing is, once you die, obviously you can never come back. life is a ONE-TIME deal. since this is your only trip through life, you gotta decide what you need to be happy, and pursue that.

what I, personally, need to be happy is food, water, air, friendship, adventure, travel, and that's it. that's why i'm putting my entire life into a backpack, and taking off on foot. i live as a homeless vagabond drifter. i blow from city to city, hitchhiking, or riding freight trains, just to see what i can see, and have fun. i dont need a house, and a car, and a family, and all that jazz to be happy. for ME, the american dream is NOT the ideal way of life.



so, you need to stop and decide.

a) what do you require from life to be happy? what do you NEED? some people can never be happy unless they have a boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse. some people need a partner to be happy, and they always feel like half of a whole unless they have a partner. is that you? deciding WHAT YOU NEED in order to be happy in a crucial step.

b) what can you do to OBTAIN that which you want from life? if you need to be famous in order to be happy, then how can you get famous? start acting, build a portfolio, take classes, etc.


your life is YOURS. you are in command. if it makes you sad, then you must FIX or CHANGE what makes you sad. once you start taking steps to change your life, you'll realize just how much power you have.

life doesn't have to be sad. in life, there is ALWAYS hope, and ALWAYS the possibility of change.

in death, there is no hope, and no change.

Answer 6

I know your exact feeling. Depression is a ***** and it makes life seem hopeless and unbearable a lot. You have to remain positive though no matter how tough it gets. Go try to exercises, it always helps me, you'll feel like crap at first and getting motivated is hard, but it releases endorphins and is better than any anti depressant out there. I truly have empathy for you and wish you the best.

Answer 7

First of all ending your life would not be something your father wanted. He would want you to be happy and live life as he did. Your father did not desert you, no matter how he died he still loves you as much as you love him. He doesn't want you to be sad, so go on continue to live the way he wanted you to, grow old and find happiness just as he did.

Answer 8

you're going through almost the same exact thing I am. I'm not exactly sure what to do either. I'm just sort of going on even though i don't really want to. Hang out with your friends more, go out for a bike ride or go for a run. those are things that tend to haelp me.

Answer 9

I have not lost a relative, but I have struggled with depression and the symptoms of lonelyness and despair it involves. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to send me a message.

Answer 10

:,-( Go to Toys R Us, buy tons of stuffed animals and a tub of ice cream and a bottle of wine from the store, and watch TV. Yeaaa.