Everything is done my dress is ordered and here the girls have there dresses. He said he is scared.
2007-01-08 08:32:33 · 26 answers · asked by lori c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's called a 'shotgun' wedding. Tell your daddy to bust out the mossberg pump action. Force him to walk down that aisle.
2007-01-08 08:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by Travis R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is normal,but maybe also it is a blessing in disguise. Maybe you two weren't suppose to get married and this is saving you both a lot of heartache. It sounds like YOU want to push the marriage and he is getting cold feet,just because a dress is ordered and it is still VERY EARLY Jan,doesn't mean the order can't be cancelled,but maybe you wouldn't get all the money back,but maybe the Girls can take their's back and get a refund as well. I would say let it go,it was NOT meant to be. Maybe he is scared of how controlling you are appearing,maybe you need to back away and give the poor guy some space.
2007-01-08 16:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by grbarnaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stop planning things (don't call off the wedding yet) and try to sit down with my partner to figure out what's really going on. Why is he scared to get married? Is the stress getting to him? Is he not sure anymore? There are a lot of factors that go into getting married, and frankly men and women think very differently about the whole marriage process. There seems to be some sort of communication problems between you two, best deal with them now before it gets worse.
Also, it's better he mention it now than after the wedding! I'm sure neither one of you wants to get married and then end up divorced shortly after! Try to be patient and understanding - you love this person and want everything to work out, right?
Best of luck to you!
2007-01-08 16:41:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all he is,is scared thats normal for every guy. Called cold feet. Now if he is absolutely sure he wants out, then there may be another problem. Even so, with all in all, now is still the best time to call off an engagement before reaching the altar. It may be hard and espensive now but waiting til later could be a disaster. So just tell him its normal to be scared but if he really truly loves you, its well worth being scared to be married to you. Good luck
2007-01-08 16:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN! As fast as you can. If it is still this far out from your wedding and he is having second thought then he is not committed to you no matter what he says. A few days before there are understandable jitters but 3 months out?? How well do you really know him? Is there someone else? I was getting married and my partner backed out. It turned out there was another. That might not be your case but it is best to sort it out NOW and not after the marriage.
2007-01-08 16:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by Pierre Patelin Longshanks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Cold Feet? He is not ready to marry or does he also want to end the relationship? All I can say is this happens a lot and I advise that no one gets married unless they really want to and it shouldnt matter if the entire wedding is paid for. I dont know what you can do in this situation HE is the one that has to decide and think and do. You can only talk to him and see where his head is. Perhaps he wants to downsize the wedding. perhaps he wants out all together. Talk! Talk! Talk!
2007-01-08 16:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Maybe give him a few days to finish freaking out, don't bother him don't even call just let him clear his mind, and if he still feels that way in a few days then he can call and cancel everything and deal with getting money back and so on, this could be a blessing in disguse or he could just be getting cold feet and he will be fine
2007-01-08 16:35:53 · answer #7 · answered by Ms.DaSilva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing much you can really do if he doesn't want to get married. Find out the return policy, you may be able to get your money back. If not you can always put the dress up for later or sell it.
2007-01-08 16:35:04 · answer #8 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your situation.
Try to go to pre-marital counseling with him, if he refuses then call off the wedding before you have to put more money on the reception or people purchase gists, plane tickets.
Yo can get some money back, check your contract for cancellation policies.
Be strong and handle the situation with dignity and class.
Good luck
2007-01-08 17:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out more about his feelings -- and quick. He might have met someone, a friend may be bad mouthing marriage, etc. Trust everyone who tells you though - - if he backs out now and then comes back in a few months -- how long will that marriage last? Marriage is about 2 people being in LOVE and being honest with each other, not about 'backing out'. There's a reason, you just need to find out what it is and accept it
Good luck!
2007-01-08 16:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by jennw33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋