My parents have been fighting, and I've talked to my sister, i'm just not sure if they are or not. My sis told me that its fine, and I try and believe her, but I just can't bring myself to. Please help?! Thank you so much for ppl hu have answrd by the way....i just really need help here!
2007-01-08 08:26:56 · 25 answers · asked by wondering 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell them your worried and ask them.
2007-01-08 08:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by Sammy12oz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a mom and my 8 year-old daughter asked me the same question. To be quite frank, the only way to really know is if you ask your parents. Don't torture yourself with the thought of divorce. Many couples go through tough times that may seem like it goes on forever. We get over it and a few years later, there's another bump in the road. Depending on how old you are, this may have happened to your parents before and you just didn't realize it. Now that you're older, you can tell when some thing's up. Talk to them. It's a possibility that they aren't considering a separation, but the fact that YOU are, will enlighten them regarding the image they portray. If they do want a divorce, it's important for you to know that adults often love each other without liking each other. It's different from the love we feel for our children. I may one day stop loving my husband of ten years, although I will NEVER stop loving my daughters. Parent-child love is unconditional and adult-adult love is often not. Best of luck to you!
2007-01-09 00:38:30 · answer #2 · answered by lola 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can fight everyday and not get divorced, or there are others who don't fight and end up divorced so that is not really a way of knowing the best thing is to sit down with them and tell them you are worried about the situation and you would like for them to be honest with you and let you know what your future may bring, if they see you are being mature about this, hopefully they will also.
2007-01-08 16:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.DaSilva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're just going to have to ask about the situation. there's no real way to tell; couples who fight constantly sometimes still stay together even though they don't like eachother. i'm not sure if you say "mom, dad, are you getting a divorce?" they would answer you with the real answer, because it is so blunt and they wouldn't want to hurt you. so when you are with one parent alone (it's important to ask each seperately) just ask them something along the lines of why their relationship has gotten so bad, and what they plan to do about it. depending on how they answer you, take it from there.
you could even ask them with your sister if it would make you feel more comfortable. i know i get uncomfortable talking to my mom or dad about a serious issue.
good luck.
2007-01-08 16:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by thedeadphishphan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them. If they are it is not the end of the world although it feels like it. I was 15 when my parents divorced. I was in my 20's before I went throught a whole day without thinking "My parents are divorced" It hurts but as you grow older it will get better. Hopefully you are just getting the wrong signals! God bless you and your family.
2007-01-08 16:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by brandi from texas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so sad for you, can you talk to your parents? just ask them straight out, and insist on an honest answer? even talking just to one of them can help, as you can sometimes gauge from they way they respond, just how serious things are between them.
Maybe they don't even know themselves, maybe fighting is just a part of their relationship with each other, silly as is sounds some people relate to each other this way, and consider it a normal part of their lives, without realising the effect it can have on their families or those around them.
Do you have a councellor at school (you sound young enough to be at school) or a relative or trustworthy adult you can confide in?
God bless, I will pray for you..................
2007-01-08 16:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by maggie rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your relationship with both, suggestion would be to ask them both together and you and your sister would prefer to be there for both with what ever the decision might be. Right now you are only beating yourself up and only second quessing what might now be the whole truth to the problem. Set up the surrounding for a family participation on truth and honesty and lots of love. Be yourself and ask. Good Luck. you will do fine....
2007-01-08 16:38:10 · answer #7 · answered by Richard G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents got divorced when I was 22 and my husband's parents were divorced when he was 22. What I'm trying to say is that even when you're older, you don't know when you're parents are going to get divorced. It's a decision they make and it's private before it's announced to the rest of the family.
Talk to your parents and ask them directly. There is not harm in that. They'll want to talk to you, you're their kid and they love you. If something's bothering you the first thing they'll want to do is help you, and if what's bothering is concerning them...they'll want to talk to you about it.
2007-01-08 16:36:26 · answer #8 · answered by Querida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to tell is to ask them. Just remember that fighting isn't always a death sentence for marriage. Good luck.
2007-01-08 16:29:12 · answer #9 · answered by Rosie aka Rosie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont even worry about it.. it has nothing to do with you..its an adult choice to be made and nothing you say or do will change that. if they do get a divorce you will be fine. and they both will still love you. you get too xmas, 2 easter, 2 birthdays..the guilt drives them crazy and you will make out better. plus most people these days get divorced. its normal.
2007-01-08 16:30:12 · answer #10 · answered by silentjealousy77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they fight ALL the time, then they probably will eventually. If they fight once in a while, then I wouldn't be worried, everyone argues.
Just talk to your mom and ask her what is going on.
2007-01-08 16:29:03 · answer #11 · answered by Billys girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋