I have been with my husband for 10 long years,our sex life used to be great ,but now he wants to and i dont.can some give me some ideas i could use to get my fire back burning.(I'm only 30 years old)
2007-01-08 08:16:46 · 13 answers · asked by sassie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
be honest with yourself about why you don't have the fire burning. Is it how you feel about yourself? How you feel about him? How you feel about the act?
I'm guessing that you feel that he's not "romancing" you or things aren't "hot, like they used to be". Well, that's because you're in a rut...get out of it. And I don't think toys or games are the answer. That's the lazy way and makes one think "ok, what's next". Just start making the move yourself...even when you don't feel much like it. But be romantic about it...no wham bam stuff. make foreplay the centerpiece...he'll get the hint. It might take a month or two so don't expect overnight miracles...but if you make the effort for 60 days he'll keep it going after that. Remember, we men are creatures of habit. If you let us get lazy and inattentive then we'll continue that...and vice versa.
You may not get more romance out of the bed but he'll certainly be more attentive and spend more time on you INSIDE the bed.
2007-01-08 08:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by digdowndeepnseattle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is tough because I went throught the same kind of thing at the same age. The one thing you can look forward to is 33 or 34 you
want sex all the time. I had no idea until it happened to me and its
still going and I am 40. I will tell you some things you try may not work because you don't want them to. Try a getaway for a weekend or something romantic that you both enjoy. Massage and warm bath. Candles, incense and if your really brave go to a adult book store where you can buy toys. They also have incense and movies.
Think of fantasies that you have for instance role playing and such. This also depends on your partner and you know that person better than I do. Good Luck and don't give up.
2007-01-08 08:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by ENCHANTRESS ROSE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i am only 25 i have been married 2 months to a gorgeous man but i am the same way at times, i think you just have to find something that really turns you on, my thing is im tired with working full time and going to school full time. Maybe you could go to counseling, or to the doctor.. or have a pureromance party that will get ya in the mood! Buy some new Sexy things from Victoria Secrets, pretend like its the beginning all over again.
2007-01-08 08:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.DaSilva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your marriage is good other than you sexual relationship. Think of how your life would be without your husband. All the things he does for you. How he shows his love and appreciation for you.
2007-01-08 08:22:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hope i dont feel like that in 8 yrs time what about u and your husband going away 4 a couple of days by yourselves and pampering each others
2007-01-08 08:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by sarah71397 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go buy the book The Power of a Praying Wife!!!!!
2007-01-08 08:33:59 · answer #6 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dress up like Nurse Linda. Run around naked.
2007-01-08 08:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself what made you want sex,turned you on, your not old ,30 is when i started liking sex
2007-01-08 08:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by free4jackie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r close to your prime so i am surprised at this. i would see a doctor
2007-01-08 08:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by Jim G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your spouse.
2007-01-08 08:19:52 · answer #10 · answered by honeyluv_2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋