My parents have been fighting, and I've talked to my sister, i'm just not sure if they are or not. My sis told me that its fine, and I try and believe her, but I just can't bring myself to. Please help?!
2007-01-08 08:13:32 · 9 answers · asked by wondering 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Both of my parents are on their third marriage. When it comes to sensing divorce, I'm no stranger.
Fighting is actually a good sign. It means they are at least trying to communicate. It's when the silence sets in, and they act like they are okay but inside they're fuming, that you need to worry. It's when something suddenly snaps, and everything is fine, but you could cut the tension with a knife. Fighting, I've learned, is a last-ditch effort to try and save the marriage.
Look for: not caring, long late night phone calls to or from your house (a sign of an affair), either one having special friends over all the time (a sign of an affair). See what the cause of the fighting is--is it money? Loss of interest? Boredom with each other? Stress at work? See if you can help solve these problems. I don't know how old you are, but you might be able to work a little and leave some money on the table or in the mailbox (anonymously) to help with the bills if that's a source of strife.
Approach your parents, also. Seeing that they are affecting you might just be what they need--it might give them a reality check.
If they do end up splitting though, I'm very sorry. I know what it's like to have folks get divorced, and it's awful. Talk to your school counselor (on second thought, be careful with that. Sometimes school counselors are a little bit oddball). Talk with your friends that have divorced parents. And talk to your sister. You're going to need those ties no matter what, just in case.
Most of all--Good luck!
2007-01-08 08:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reality of marriages is that over 50% never last and end up in divorce. I myself went through a divorce over 6 years ago and it torn my heart in half and it also affected my two sons very bad. They didn't do so well in school for a while and were depressed that my ex-wife and I argued all the time about visitation for me to spend time with them. So I can see where you are coming from just be supportive of them both without taking sides. Love and respect them both equally and give them your input on their situation but, in the end it's their decision to make and it is not you and your sister's fault. VERY IMPORTANT that you remember that above all. Pray about it and you will have your answer soon.
2007-01-08 08:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by saturn man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang I really feel sad when young people have these fears--I am sorry you are going through this --but to be honest --you need to voice your concerns to your folks--tell them you are concerned about the amount of fighting they are going through and that you are afraid they are going to divorce--and ask them if there is any way you can help?? Sometimes parents forget the kids are part of the family and they should be included in making it a stronger unit--
2007-01-08 08:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember this one thing. It's not your fault. Too many times we think that we caused the problem in a failed marriage. That's not true. Communicate your feelings with your parents and let them know what you have noticed. Ask for the truth. Marriage can be very tough, and sometimes people are better off by themselves. Be honest with your feelings and let them know that you are concerned.
2007-01-08 08:24:30 · answer #4 · answered by low1sk8er 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know Parents fight.. thats a normal thing in a marriage.. If your sis is older u should believe her.. Your parents have been strong for so many years, that it will be hard for them to break everything up, sooner or later they will work their problems out too.. my parents are the same right now.. havent been talking for 2 months now.. they said they are getting divorced but it doesnt seem that way.. Dont be bummed out, thats how life is.... the only way u can help, is by talking to them.. they might listen.. but they still have their own opinions.. soo u just enjoy life..
2007-01-08 08:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
it depends on what it is about and how long it has been going on for.ask your mom or dad and see.maybe its just a phase and its not as big a deal as it may seem.i know its hard i went through the same thing.good luck and hope it all turns out good
2007-01-08 08:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by iluvrelientk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i have nice married friends who where fighting too there kids where worryed to but they know as much as they wanna try to help getting involved wont help so just bleave and hope they will work things out and there love is strong to get them trough it my friends did there ok now and i hope your mum and dad will be ok as well you can be loving caring to them both when u see them show u then your happy to see them hope that helps too.
2007-01-08 08:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them!!
2007-01-08 08:16:03 · answer #8 · answered by crazy_sad_songs 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask...........
2007-01-08 08:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋