When i first met her she was unbelievable. Like we got along soooo good. But then it happened. She called me and said she loved me, and at the time I realized that I loved her too. A week goes by and she wont answer my calls, and now im going crazy. I go to her and ask her whats wrong and she says she dosn't want anybody at all. On top of that shes out drinking with these losers. Then i find out shes on anti-depressants. Now im in love with this beautiful psycho girl who I JUST CANT GET OUT OF MY MIND! Its killing me now im the one seeing a head doctor! I know we both have issues but Iv' never done wrong to her and shes trying to find excuses to hate me and i dont know why. WHAT IS WITH THIS GIRL YO
2007-01-08 08:13:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You are lucky to be out of there you are not the one with the difficulties. I bet it felt nice to be needed like she needed you, but she has too many needs, she is a dependent you could have been a co dependent, now thats misery believe me. Relationships should be 50/50 ish but a relationship with her would have been you giving 95% all the time and in a couple of years you would have blown a gasket.
2007-01-08 08:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by mfitztherapist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sympathise with your hurting, it is a pity that you have taken an emotional tumble.
You said you both had issues, it would go a long way to explain why you have brought each other 'down' without even trying too hard. People who have issues tend to attract other people with issues. At first it is great, because you are with another who 'understands', but often, when strong emotions start happening, it has a detrimental effect simply because feeling starts to unearth all the fears you are trying so desperately to hide.
My advice is to try living on your own a bit, only have good friendships or very 'light' relationships (if you can). You need to get your own issues sorted, when you do this, you will attract a different sort of person and the love you may feel in the future will be more 'healthy' for you.
2007-01-09 01:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by Spoonraker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny, you should have asked "What is with me!??'
It is not easy to understand a girl, especially when they are emotion. She may have double crossed you, and dated few people at the same time. it is normal that she acted that way. However, in you case, you should not take it so seriously or you will go crazy every time you get turned down. I say, you should play it cool from now on. After all, you don't know her that well........
2007-01-08 16:19:58 · answer #3 · answered by YourDreamDoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh boy,I can give you the best answer,becouse,I had the sme story,only that I am just like a girl you are talking about.I used to drink a lot,but only becouse I wanted to be someone,I wanted people to pay attention on me,I wanted to have someone to take care of me.And than,I met boy that I liked,and than i fall in love with him,all problems started when he told me he loves me to.I was afraid,I belived he'll hurt me,so I left him,and now I suffer like never.I think she's feeling like that too.
2007-01-11 09:02:39 · answer #4 · answered by the one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most likely, she's afraid of failure. it's obvious she likes you, but she doesn't want to get too attached because she fears failure and hurt in the relationship. she tries to get away from reality with the anti-depressants and the drinking, but most likely, it isn't working. just talk to her about it and try to make something work 'cause it sounds like you guys are made for each other.
2007-01-08 16:20:15 · answer #5 · answered by thanks life for the lemonade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest waiting till shes better before going after her.If she on anti-depressants thats not a good thing and she needs real help not drugs.Remember you can always do better if you want it.
2007-01-08 16:38:04 · answer #6 · answered by ICSFoster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's unstable. I don't know how old you are but she sounds imature... and to the person above... It's not "normal" to tell a person you love them if you are seeing other people too...
Move on bro, we have all been there. It sux but focus on yourself.
2007-01-08 17:39:11 · answer #7 · answered by onthedlyoshi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You`re well out of it brother, believe me. Just get yourself out and "laissez le bon temps rollez" . Try not to take every "relationship" to heart.
2007-01-09 02:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by bletherskyte 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey-Move on she is bi- polar. Don't try to changer her , or help her just run away. Find someone who means what they say. Not hard.
2007-01-12 13:40:23 · answer #9 · answered by dreamweaver824 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could be in love but its probably just lust,get yourself something to take your mind off her ,its easy being cold hearted its just a state of mind.dump her
2007-01-08 17:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by ezz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋