How far should forgiveness go?
Is it always for the best to forgive?
Is it possible to rebuild a friendship?
How can you forget about the hurtful things that were said to you?
2007-01-08 07:39:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
A big question? Someone wronged my family this person was close to me, I held nothing but hate! the person then died i have NO regret for the hate i held!! But that is my nature i can't forgive i'm not saying i'm right in anyway. It's always possible to rebuild a friendship.You probably won't forget the hurtful things said to you, however time eases away the sting!!
2007-01-08 10:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot depends on what was said and the circumstances, so all any answer can do is generalise.
Forgiveness can go as far as you let it - right through from total unforgiveness which leads to bitterness and is not healthy for the person not forgiving through to total forgiveness when you are able to put the clock back to how things were before.
It is always best to forgive - if you can and it is genuine. The only time I would say forgiveness is not for the best is if it is offered too soon after something like rape or sexual or physical abuse that hasn't been thoroughy dealt with and healed. Forgiveness too soon can harm the healing process, in some cases.
Friendships can be rebuilt if the circumstances are right and if both the people want it to be rebuilt - it could even end up stronger for the falling out and making up.
You can only forget in time, and after forgiving. However, even if you remember, if you've truly forgiven the words will have lost their power to hurt you - which is another reason for trying to forgive.
I hope this covers all the questions you've asked and I also hope that you are able to forgive and rebuild your friendship. Good luck and God bless (and if you blieve in God and pray He will help you with forgiveness)
2007-01-08 15:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by Star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends who the friend is and what theyve done. Its not easy to do, but if the friend means a lot to you, you just have to talk it through with them and try and get over whatever was done or said. If the friendship was strong to begin with, then you should be able to rebuild things, but if it wasnt then sometimes its just better to call it a day.
2007-01-08 16:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by fallenangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how much you value the friendship. If you know each other so well to know that it wasn't meant then it shouldn't be hard to forgive and forget. If she crossed the line and showed her true colours then its up to you how you feel.
If youve known eavch other for years, chances are that you will always be friends no matter what but true friends take the time to listen to each other and apologise when wrong.
2007-01-08 15:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how bad the situation is ! and depends on how strong the friendship is if u have a really strong friendship and are reallyb gd mates then u shud always forgive and forget bt if ur nt really close then you should try to forgive and forget but those type of friendships fizzle out enyway
2007-01-08 15:52:12 · answer #5 · answered by pwincess_blodzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive and forget is always the best way to treat a situation as you describe and it can turn out to be a more solid friendship that previously
2007-01-08 15:43:22 · answer #6 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on what the friend did that hurt you?does the friend want to make up?
or has too much been said?
do u think you could just carry on as normal? as if it never happened?
ive been in a similar situation and i tried to forgive what had happened nut we gradually grew appart because of it.
good luck whatever you decide
2007-01-08 15:43:05 · answer #7 · answered by laulyl86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it depends what your friend has done.
i once was dragged along the floor in public by someone that i had called my best friend all because she thought i called her mum a b*****(which i didnt) and obviously thats unforgivable.
If its really bad make new friends, if its something that can be resolved then dont lose a friendship thats possibly very important to you. Good luck.
2007-01-08 18:53:10 · answer #8 · answered by jadey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life's too short find a new friend the world is full of people.
2007-01-08 15:41:24 · answer #9 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wel wen i was hurt by my best friend i moved to another school coz i just couldn't bare it anymore. i stopped talking to her and everything, when ive seen her on the road i just ignored her and basiclly stopped any connection with her. it is five years now and i still cant forget her.
2007-01-08 15:47:17 · answer #10 · answered by vamy189 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋